i am getting married soon. my fiancé and i have never had sex before, but he doesn’t know that i am a virgin. i don't know how to tell him that. and also, can you tell my what to expect the first time i have sex! i would appreciate that sooo very much.
2006-09-19 13:04:21 · 19 answers · asked by naomi_campbell_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am not going to tell you my exact age. but i will tell you that i am over 18 by a bit. i am between 20 and 30 years old.
2006-09-19 13:17:22 · update #1
Are you ashamed that you are still a virgin???? if so why?? Most guys think it's great. Save it, it's the most wonderful gift you can give your husband. It's a once in a lifetime gift, when better to give it to him then on your wedding night.
2006-09-19 13:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am amazed that you are getting married soon but that you fiance does not know that you are a virgin. In my opinion, that is the sort of thing that you find out about a person when you meet them.... and surely the topic of sex has come up by now! If he makes no sexual advances towards you, then he may not be a very sexual person and you are heading for disaster. If he DOES make sexual advances, then what have you told him?
A good sex life is fundamental to a marriage, and honesty is fundamental too!
You need to start talking to your fiance!
2006-09-20 16:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are a virgin, he won't hold it against you, in fact he will probably think that it is very sweet that you have saved your virginity for the man you are going to marry. If you tell him, then I am sure he will be gentle with you the first time you have sex. It will be okay at first and it will get better and better over time.
2006-09-20 06:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by asylumseeker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think no sex before marriage is about the dumbest thing ever. this is not the 1800s, and if not proof enough, the original expectation was that women, not men didn't have sex before marriage. i suggest you shag your fiance first, because if you don't and it turns out your sexually incompatible, you mite start payin your divorce lawyer now. sex is a HUGE part of marriage, Ive been married seven years(as of last Fri:)and our sex life has gone up and down but at least we've had UPS or it may not have lasted! and he probably will be able to tell, assuming hes not a virgin. all you have to do is make it out its his special secret, coo it in his ear one night before inviting him to "be gentle". its a dream come true for most dudes(sorry guys!) and it may be a huge disappointment, hell it will be if you don't tell him, or wait for your wedding night when expectations are naturally higher. it hurts, and not just a little, but the pain is very momentary. also, you'll probably be nervous, so don't be afraid to help nature out with some lube, he-he. sex is great, but its only as good as your general standard of communication with your partner, and nothing to be shy about! good luck!!!!!
2006-09-20 06:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows already. If you are ready for sex, things will flow naturally and you'll be relaxed, therefore I needn't tell you what'll happen. He must be an understanding man though and i am pleased for you. My hubby knew I was a virgin even though I have never actually told him, but by the time we first made love, I confirmed to him that was the case. He felt privilaged and I was proud of myself. I was 24.
2006-09-20 06:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, let him know. He is very lucky. There are probably more people over the age of 110 than virgins over 18 in this world. Seriously, though, tell him so he can be sure to be gentle with you. You are over 18, aren't you?
2006-09-19 20:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to tell him ... then he'll feel special and should also take more time and be more gentle with you.
You'll also have to learn to relax when anything happens - it would be really bad if you froze up and couldn't relax enough to do anything! Presumably you've masturbated and/or had oral sex? That will give you some ideas about how your body will react to his touch ... just remember not to clamp your legs shut so tight he loses all feeling in his hands, tongue, penis and anything else he's using!
2006-09-20 07:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, the two of you want to do things for and to each other that feel good to your partner--then, keep doing them. Hopefully he's kind and gentle. Most important is to let him know kindly and gently how he's doing in making you feel gooooooooooooooooood. Require that he make you feel good. You are the one most responsible for making sure you enjoy intimacy.
2006-09-19 20:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it be.dint tell him,soon he will discover it by himself and he will be surprised and get proud that despite the liberated age you'd keep your virginity and didn't lost it to anyone.
2006-09-20 01:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by survivor2avenger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, if you tell him you are a virgin, he will feel SO special... tell him!!
and sex will hurt a little at first, but it will get better over time
2006-09-19 20:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋