she is so involved with groups on msn she has no time for me....when i say baby lets do something she says later i got to get these groups done but when later gets here its later again and again and again
2006-09-19 12:57:18 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are interested in spending time with your wife, and she blows you off...sorry pal...you can get creative and do a number of things....first you can tell her your going out without her and that she is invited and that you are leaving at a certain time. And if she chooses to stay home then go out without her and do have a good time! Maybe if she misses you she will give it some thought on how she is ignoring you. Or if you like you can flip the breaker and pretend to call the neighbors and act like their power is out as well...and tell her well lets do something together and maybe when we get back the power will be on honey...smiling!
And be sure you don't drive by the neighbors house who is always leaving lights on! Or you could kidnap her, grab her throw a pillow case over her head and bind it up with something just until you can get her into the car and down the road to a speed where she is too afraid to jump out and when she does free herself from the pillowcase she will be screaming and then you can calmly say...i need to spend some time with you and this was the only way i could even get you into the car...i love you honey...i hope i didn't hurt you...And do be careful that she doesn't get hurt! Marriage is a Job...it is a gift from God this JOB! Keep working at it...you sound like a good man! Put God first in your life and He will bless you and your marriage!
2006-09-19 13:42:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say "let's do something." Say, "honey, lets go to dinner at"- and insert her favorite restaurant. You need to get her away from the computer. Then, you need to talk. What you have isn't a marriage, it's room mates perhaps, but not marriage. Depending on just how close you are to giving up on the marriage, you might try using a hammer on the computer. Unless something changes, eventually your marriage will end. So, do SOMETHING. Or, file for divorce.
2006-09-19 13:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that she is married to you not to the internet. That means she has to spend more time with you than her hobby. She doesn't know how lucky she is to have a husband who needs her and who is faithful to her. Hang your wedding ring on the computer monitor and tell her the monitor is her husband and that she will soon lose you if she carries on this way. Maybe a serious threat of divorce will wake her up.
2006-09-19 16:02:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to keep on trying don't give up. I know it may be frustrating but bear with it a bit longer she may soon become tired of the net. Remember in a many marriage lives there is always some sort of crutch to work out or on. Best wishes
2006-09-19 13:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by lady e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you'd like to do... go to the movies, go to dinner, whatever. Then do it by yourself and leave her by the computer.
When you get back, see what happens. If she's still on the computer and didn't care that you went without her, there's a problem and you may need counseling. If she cares and got mad that you left without her, you've got her....talk about it and work it out.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 13:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should let her know how you feel. You feel like the internet is more important then you. Maybe she thinks you don't mind or something. I don't know what else just tell her that you feel like you are not important to her. And that you have needs, social needs and love needs. Hope this helps.
2006-09-19 13:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan date nights and surprise her... divert her attention... start with a loving approach.
Don't assault her or make her feel bad... just remind her that you want to spend time with her by planning a fun evening :)
Make an "itinerary" if you will and make it a big deal!
She will LOVE it and with vulnerability at the end of the night tell her you miss her.
2006-09-19 13:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
e-mail her and join her groups. We ladies like our privacy and individualism, if you put a wrench in the gears it will frustrate her and she will be forced to drop the addictive outlet that causes her to ignore you. Flood her groups with your comments and questions, but so it in a nice way so she can't blow a gasket. Good luck.
2006-09-19 13:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. my mom married a truck driver and when he wasnt on the road he was on the computer and that ended in divorce. im not saying yours will. just talk to her about. ask her if you can help her with it in any way so she might spend less time on there. or take a cardboard box, paint it to look like a monitor, then she might be interested in you
2006-09-19 13:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by sx_rx_rocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her nice tell her you wanna show her sumthin then rock her world. Then tell her the less time she spends typing she can save her hands for more important things
2006-09-19 13:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mega-man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋