I am a mother of a 15 year old girl. I was cleaning her room and I saw her diaries, I decided to take a little peek, and I discovered something shocking and disturbing, for what I can tell she have being kicking boys between the legs at least from the third grade until now! I had no idea! Her diary is full of stories about it. And the detail, names and dates, everything is registered. By her words I really can tell she loves it, and is almost like a hobby! She describes the boy’s physical and emotional suffering, and how hilarious she thinks it is and that sometimes….she gets wet!!! And that she and her girlfriends keep score!!!, and the different ways to do it, and that boys never hit back and how funny she thinks that is. I feel very sorry for the kids. Now that she is older, most of the times she pretends to be angry at something they did, she makes up excuses. I just could not continue to read anymore, it makes me want to cry.
2006-09-19 12:46:57 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She always seemed to me like a very sweet little girl. How am I going to tell my husband something like this? He is always telling how proud he is of his “little girl”!
I am not thinking straight, I need help here. Anyone had this problem before?
2006-09-19 12:47:17 · update #1
punk princess!:
When I was reading her diary I felt guilty but not anymore. To keep it short this is what I told her: A kid had to go to the Doctor and he told his mother what you have being doing and where do you live. It is sexual abuse and you can stop them from making babies or lose a testicle, you can be expelled from school or even go to a “boot camp”. You should only do it if you are all alone and a freak is trying to rape you or kill you. I could tell she was sorry but she was making stupid excuses like “I was just kidding” and “other girls do it”, until her Dad walked into the room; she stopped talking, her face turned very red and then started crying. Boys hate to hurt girls, but the first kid she kicked should had beaten her up after recovering, that way she would never do it again, and the other girls would be afraid too.
2006-09-20 11:28:27 · update #2
And about that girl in PE, she should not do it even if he for some strange reason allows her, especially in class, where is the teacher? And other girls will see it and will think that it is OK!
TAKE CARE.
2006-09-20 11:29:10 · update #3
unwritten rules of diaries:
no one should look at it
OWNER of the diary should hide/lock it so no1 can read it.
if your mom is still cleaning your room at 15, she has the right to look in your diary ONCE...
that makes me sad too. guys dont deserve to be taken advantage of like that :-(
theres a girl in PE and she kicks this one guy right there when we do relays... it annoys me but they both think its funny. It kind of upsets me that guys are willing to just take it. someone needs to stand up to her and file harrassment. WHAT IS WRONG WITH GIRLS THESE DAYS?
2006-09-19 18:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm surprised that you haven't read her diary before this. I'm also surprised no one has complained especially if she's been doing it on a regular basis you would think the school would have noticed something. And in third grade! - None of these boys parents had any complaints about it?
Do you think she is really doing this or is it just a fantasy of hers. Maybe it makes her feel good to think about it but she has never really done it. Either way, talk to your husband and talk to a therapist.
BTW - there is nothing wrong with reading your daughter's diary. A good parent needs to know what is going on. I do it all the time and my daughter knows it. This has not stopped her from writing some pretty shocking things.
2006-09-19 13:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As for your husband, showing him the diary might work. I'd talk it over with your daughter. For all those people who say you're an asshole for reading your daughters diary, well, have you guys read "She said yes?" Her mother read her diary - and that saved her daughter's life.
Parents CAN go through your stuff at ANY time, this is WHY they are your PARENTS, to protect YOU!!!!!!!
Sounds like she needs new friends... I'd read the book "She Said Yes." It's christian oriented, but man you'll see your daughter's a sweet little angel compared to Cassie... and by the way, this should be dealt with. You don't want lawyers on your doorstep, suing for assult..
Hope I helped.
2006-09-20 03:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by I think... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are describing something a little out of the ordinary especially when you said she gets wet. Not that anything is wrong with her, but that she is doing something different.
You may want to talk to a professional if you are worried about telling your husband. I really think there is something deeper, a root, simply because of the enjoyment she receives from causing pain...that's really what it boils down to, causing pain and enjoying it.
Your husband may be able to explain to her how horrible this is...although, that would be a weird conversation. Also, how does your daughter find out that you found out....eek! You looked in her diary. My mom looked in mine, and I'll look in my daughters. Are you ready to go into the betrayal of trust and space right now? You may also want to keep the diary as an open avenue to see what your daughter is up to in the future. Were parents...we must do this.
So, get your wits about you. Call a counselor who specializes in youth, and find out how to handle this and talk to your daughter. Daddy may not need to know???
God Bless.
2006-09-19 13:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by mauihillside 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first off Why in the hell were you reading her diary?!? thats a horrible thing to do and an invasion of her privacy!! second tell her unless someone is trying to rape or molest her to keep her feet to herself. And remember to apologize for reading her diary.
2006-09-20 01:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Stunnas on got my stunnas on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with others, talk about it with her. You may want to take her to a therapist and report this to school officials and the other girls parents as well. This could cause these boys a lot of pain and render them stable. Make sure that your daugther realizes this.
2006-09-20 03:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by mminuyasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, ok try to calm down, I would tell her about this, and her dad, it's really isn't funny, I mean sure on tv it is, but she can't do this. I think you need to punish her, try to be strong, and I would get the school involved, keep a close eye on her, she my be angry at first but she will thank you later
Good Luck Sweetie!!
2006-09-19 12:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by ajmcleanrocksmysocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't feel bad reading your daughters diary parents have a right to be curious and concerned and what your daughter is doing should be helped by a professional like a councillor so this doesn't effect her future
2006-09-19 20:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Surfer_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is apologize your daughter for invading her privacy. Next you have to sit her down and tell her how dangerous it is to constantly hurt people on purpose. Have her father explain to her why that is something that should be done only as a way to defend herself. Explain to her that she is going to meet someone who will defend himself and she can end up badly hurt or dead. Then stop reading her diary, the only acceptable reason to read your child's diary is if she is changing and you think she is on drugs or having unprotected sex.
2006-09-19 12:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Teen girls kick boys in the balls when mad at them.
2017-02-25 03:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bluntman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋