High school blows, I'm the only one without any friends, literally 0 friends?

Question

I am a freshman in high school, and just recently moved to this town. The whole town is obsessed with sports. I absolutely hate sports. I love music and art, but no one in this school is interested in any of that. I've had this social anxiety problem since 6th grade, and I can't stand it. No one in school talks to me, and I can't get up the courage to even say hi to people. I'ts like my voice is lost, and when I do speak it doesn't some out the way I want it to. I'm sick of being a loner and feeling depressed. Theres been a lot of family issues in my home, and I strongly believed that has helped influence the problem. I don't want to talk to my dad about this problem at all, I've tried, he just doesn't get it. I think he is worried about doctors putting me on meds. He doesn't want medication to harm me, whether it be addiction, or just harming my body in general. Any advice would be great. Please don't say join clubs, band. I didn't like band, tried it. Clubs r all sport

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I guess I forgot to state the obvious....I HAVE 00000000 FRIENDS!!!!!! I SIT ALONE AND THINK TO MYSELF ALL DAY!!!!! IT IS ****** BORING AND I AM SICK OF IT!!!!!!

Answer 1

There are more people like you than you think. People who've gone through high school without any real friends. Just remember that these people with all the friends are not going to be in touch with these friends in a few years. The only thing that's left for all of you will be your grades. Why not concentrate on kicking a$$ in your classes. It's the perfect escape from home problems and the perfect revenge for your snobby classmates. when you graduate from College a successful adult, you maybe interviewing some of those snobs to be your employees in your successful life. Who knows, you may have your gas pumped by one of the football players when you pull up in your Bentley. Remember Bill Gates had no friends or girlfriends in High school and neither did Steve Jobs. Sam Walton was an orphan who was never adopted and was given a customary $100 upon release from the orphanage when he turned 18 and was still not adopted and look what he did with his life. I understand the need for peer interaction, but if you haven't found any down to earth and interesting poeple, then make yourself busy with planning and achieving your future success. You sound really articulate, so I'm not even going to question whether you can or not.

Answer 2

Well Its hard to move to a new town and start high school to begin with. When you throw social anxiety into the mix it makes it even worse.
However, you first need to take the steps to talk with your dad and get him to understand where you are coming from, your fears and your regrets with him. It wont happen over night and you may never get the answers that you are wanting but it will feel much better to let him know how you feel. If he doesn't listen to you then that is his problem, you are being the bigger person to let him know how you feel.
Second, is there a music program at your high school? If so see if you can get into that program and make friends in there. Also if you can draw and do art, make sure you take an art class. You will find that there are other people that are just like you!
It might take some time but you will find your nitch in school and make new friends.
Don't let the social anxiety get in your way.
Take a deep breath and just walk over to someone and start talking to them. Its not easy but once you have done it you will find that it will get you noticed.
I wish you LUCK...

Answer 3

Where do I start with this one. Keep in mind, Im only 23.

I understand exactly what your feeling. When I was younger, I grew up on welfare and couldnt afford anything. To make it better, I went to a VERY preppy school where all the kids were rich. They laughed at me, threw stuff at me and humiliated me day by day. I was a loner and a loser.
This sounds kinda bad, But I joined AirCadets. I became involved in the community threw cadets. Meantime I was still a BIG loser and had no friends. I slowly attended leadership courses in cadets and started to realize my problem is a problem which happens more often than you think. I began to get promoted and seen little kids under me. I began to see the difference and you change yourself. You dont realize you do, but you do.
And I know your going to find this hard to beleive, but you slowly begin to get comfortable in group settings and slowly more interactive walking threw the hall ways in school. Next thing I knew it, I had a GF and lots of friends.
I stayed with the Air Cadet program and later joined the Air Force where I know make Airplanes for LOTS of money.

There is always a chance to become more than you are. You dont need meds, you need confidence. But trust me man, I was a HUGE Loser, and if I can do it, you can too. Just give it a try.

Try to find something that will build your self esteem and make you more confident. And I know this is easier said than done, and its going to take some time to find what it is for you. But when you do, stick with it. And you'll see a difference and so will everyone around you.

Answer 4

I had 5 or 6 years of broadly this kind of thing. The upside is: you will learn to be extremely good at being alone. You know the downside. I would suggest stubbornly doing exactly what you think is right in all situations. People will respect you...or rather, the kind of people you might want as friends will hopefully respect you and gravitate towards you. If you love music and art, pursue them in school as far as possible and out of school whenever you can, and make them your friends for now. Pour every energy into learning. Make the most of any social interaction...not by being over-eager, but just by enjoying superficial conversations and so on, for what they are worth. And they are worth more than you'd think. The clubs thing isn't so mad - but maybe don't join any school ones. God, isn't it a nightmare being surrounded by lunts? (Read Stephen Fry - 'Moab is my Washpot', you'll appreciate it, but for heaven's sake don't buy it - get it out of the library.) And lastly - don't get addicted to chatting online. It's a dark, dark thing. In fact, maybe ration your computer use - any reliance on the machine makes social interaction seem more remote and impossible. Computers...the devil's work!!! Bwahaha!! Sorry...anyway, email me if you like (you'd be MAD not to, I'm having a sale on words of wisdom this week, three for the price of two) - I talk total **** and have zero free time, but I'm friendly enough as they go. Good luck :)

Answer 5

I know how you feel, but I'm not sure if it is for the same reason. I am gay, I knew all my life and all through high school, and my school was also obsessed with sports, which I didn't like because I was different. Everyone in my school was homophobic. I was scared to talk to them. I had different interests, but after high school, I moved away to Los Angeles and I have changed so much. I talk to whoever I want and I have the best boyfriend ever. I don't know if you are gay too, but that could be the reason, you never know. You may have just never discovered who you really are. But don't worry, things will change.

Answer 6

take a look around, you are not likely to be the "only" depressed sociopath around. You have anxiety about meeting people and don't trust them. In spite of that go ahead and meet them. tell some of the ones not doing, and especially those doing sports that you don't like sports. It might surprise you that a lot of people , even those doing sports like other things also and sometimes more than the sports. Do you like sketching and painting. sketch portraits, do watercolours of the school and the people. have you ever tried to draw people doing sports. they are good studies. often they don't notice you working and remain natural. but the challenge is to sketch minimal outlines because they are not going to hold poses for you. buildings allow a more technical approach. watercolour is tricky but has the advantage of speedy drying and almost perfect portability. If you are any good you will find yourself a center of attention soon enough. Portraits are astounding ice breakers, and even though I am not very good, when I open my book an take my pencil out people come to look over my shoulder to see what I draw. It used to bother me but now it is only a worry if they block traffic. D.I.H.

edit: boy, you got an awful lot of the ladies answering your complaint. I am an old geezer now but if I had had the ability to get women to respond like that when I was in school I would have abused it far more than I did.

Answer 7

why dont you start by saying hi to people, they may think you are hateful and dont want to be around anyone. You have to make the choice. If you start by just saying hi or what up, maybe people will start talking to you, give them a chance. I know it is hard moving from friends but im sure some kids out there have the same interest as you. You just have to start being nice so they will talk to ya.

Answer 8

try coffee shops (open mike nights) or the mall or something-- not everyone is into sports, even if it seems as though they are. also, it may be more trouble than it's worth but start a myspace account. look for kids with similar interests at your school. overall, you may be better off high school sucks and so do the people in it-- perhaps your can get fantastic grades and go to college- people are less obsessed with popularity and such.

Answer 9

Do you have a lunch person? When i go to new places I always make sure to find that one person that i can sit at lunch with without feeling like im not wanted.

Anyway, Try looking for friends in higer grade levels.

Also, make internet friends. You'll find someone. It just takes time. Sit back for a bit and watch how the people st your school are. you'll probably find someone who has the same interests as you.

Answer 10

I was the same way when I was in school. I didn't snap out of it until I took a job that forced me to go door-to-door talking to people. It was terrifying at first, but I got good fast, and my confidence exploded.

So you need to find some activity in your school or community that forces you to talk to people. Join the debating team, run for class president (yes, be that bold), or become a tutor. If you force yourself to talk to people in a formal circumstance like that, you'll know what to say, and it will build your confidence.

Good luck!