am i over stepping to ask?and why do i allways end up looking like some ****** .i`m the only one in this house that is not a drug user.and why ca`nt it be leagle to hire someone to help.i`m not about to give up a lifetime and walk away.i have worked for what i have and i`m not giveing it up.all i want is a place to call my own and a woman to love me and be my best friend.i`m lonly in my own home even god want help.i love everyone but somethings got to give.i think i need a life the one i`ve worked for.
2006-09-19 12:36:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
SHE IS PROBABLY IN DENIAL, AND SHE CHEATED 4 TIMES AND U STILL STAYED. U GOT REAL LOVE.... OR IF NOT JUST FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL BE TRUE TO U...
2006-09-19 12:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LADY INDIA♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - it may sound difficult and harsh but to me it seems that you need to divorce her and then find a new woman, someone who is a better woman for you.
And it is very understandable that you do not want to give up anything. However - there may be the things you can keep and don't have to give up (your house, your property and so on) but there are the things you can not force to stay (her love, her heart). If she is really cheating on you (are you really sure?) and a drug user then you can legally divorce her with little consequences for you.
If you have real good reason to believe she is again cheating you could consider to hire a private eye and get the evidence. You may need to also collect some information about the laws in your state where you live in so you can divorce her clean based on that evidence. Without anything to pay for her.
If she is a drug user and you are not then you could have her arrested. That's another option. Be a witness in court against her and have her being locked away. In such a case I think you can divorce also with her getting nothing.
But you know - this is really a very hard way. And she may fight back and dig out all dirt you may have under your bed.
Overall perhaps you should first get some legal advice (it's worth the investment to sit with a good atorney for an hour) and then act accordingly. Make a plan to divorce her legally and so that you keep everything and she nothing.
2006-09-19 13:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by spaceskating_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to be really annoying to her to constantly be asked where she has been. I think anyone in the "same" situation wouldn't take to kindly to it. If you are in a relationship you have to have mutual trust and mutual respect. If you feel like you can never trust her again or that she gives you no reason to trust her, then the only thing to do is cut all ties with her.
You are obviously very unhappy and want a better life for yourself. Well guess what... Only YOU can make that happen. Change the locks on the doors, get a divorce, give her all of her things and move forward with you live. You sound like you have a lot going for you. You should be sharing it with someone who wants the same things that you want. I'm sorry to say, but she doesn't seem to be that person. Good luck. :)
2006-09-19 13:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone truly sorry for cheating has to become an open book for a while to earn trust to save the relationship. If they're not willing to do that then they don't want you to know what they're doing so if the opportunity arises, they can cheat again. She was caught 4 times, this doesn't' mean she only cheated 4 times.
You said you don't want to lose the life you have worked so hard for? I don't see much of a life if your miserable 24/7. I would leave. If there's children involved try to get custody and move on with your life.
2006-09-19 13:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You are not overstepping!! Because she is Maybe, probably guilty, I can't say why exactly. Only she or you can. She's been caught 4 times. I can see 2, not 4! Why are you with her still? She is with you because she can still get away with it. To hire someone to help?? WHO? I respect that you're not wanting to give up, but she obviously has. And I'll have to say,,,, YOU deserve the life you have always wanted....L
2006-09-19 12:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess she knows you the trust factor is gone. No one can say they'd blame you either! But why are you staying with her? It's not giving up or walking away when you've tried and tried. Just look at it now as knowing what you don't want and look for what you do in someone.
2006-09-19 12:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by champ12@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not trying to judge you but ARE YOU CRAZY for staying with a woman who keeps cheating on you??? Throw her *** out!!!! Why would you settle for a woman like her? You have no self confidence or what? Ya you worked for everything you got but i would be damed to stay unhappy with her. Money isnt everything as long as you are unhappy. Divorce her *** or shes going to continue cheating on you.
2006-09-19 12:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with her? Its your fault for being a doormat. Quit whining and do something about your situation. If you're too stupid to dump her after cheating not once, twice, three, but FOUR times... Then you deserve to be miserable.
2006-09-19 12:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by JillA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you should never have to "work" for your wife. Things should just fall in place. Yes, you can "work" on your relationship. And if she's cheated on you 4 times, maybe all that "working" didn't work. Time to move on.
2006-09-19 12:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man are you P-whipped I told mine that you cheat on me once were done.First one did -done 2nd one did-done.Any girlfriends I have or had get told the same thing.Hard fast rule.I don't have time to worry about what there doing.
2006-09-19 15:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋