So, my birthday is tomorrow, and I'm about 2.5 hours from home (non-rush hour traffic...) at college. I turn 18, and my boyfriend of 15+months told me he wasn't going to come down. My other friend, who goes to my college as well from my highschool, shares my birthday and his parents invited me out to dinner with them. I accepted.
However, my boyfriend just called and I mentioned the dinner. He admitted he was thinking about coming up and surprising me... but he'd have to leave his house at 1:30PM to get here by 4:30PM when my classes are over... and he'd have to leave my college at 11PM to get back at 1AM in order to be up for work the next morning at 8AM. I would love to see him, but I feel that 5.5-6 hours of driving is a lot for him to do in one day. I would offer him to stay over the night, but I have early classes and he has work early in the morning and we wouldn't get much sleep (:P). I'm extremely torn about the entire situation... how should we do this? Come up or no?
2006-09-19 12:33:46 · 13 answers · asked by collegegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh, yes. Sorry, I forgot to mention I am coming home on Friday afternoon for the Jewish New Year... Completely slipped my mind because I ran out of characters. O:-)
I thought we should just save it for the weekend... but I feel like it's just such an amazing and sweet gesture that he's the one who came up with the idea and he's willing to do it for me that I want him to come up and see me. :) But I don't want him to be driving so late at night... ahhh!
2006-09-19 12:39:00 · update #1
In this situation there really is no answer. My best advise to you is to listen to your heart and let your heart be your guide. I know it's not easy being apart from him by do what's right for the both of you. I hope you have a Happy Birthday no matter what you decide!
2006-09-19 12:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask your bf to make it for a weekend when you will have more time to spend with him. If you have already accepted the invitation from your friends parents, then it would be considered to back out for other plans. Just try telling your bf that it is awfully sweet that he wants to do make the drive, but you would rather that he come down when you have plenty of time to do the things that you two would like to do! ;-)
Have fun and Happy Birthday!
2006-09-19 12:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have any sick time...can he call in the next day...are you able to skip classes? if you want to spend time with one another, you're going to have to make sacrifices...if you tell him not to come up and you end up going out ti dinner with your friend and his folks...your boyfriend is going to always think there was more to it and eventually it will be the topic of a huge argument and then you'll break up because there will no longer be any trust...You should skip classes the day after your b-day and your boyfriend should have an excuse for missing work the following day...like car trouble or stomach virus or something...your relationship depends on it...
2006-09-19 12:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always look at things and ask "Is it safe, is it friendly?" It would certainly be great to see your boyfriend on such a special day but having him do all that driving and especially late at night is not really too safe (and especially after 'heavy exercise').
Plan a special weekend together to celebrate!
2006-09-19 12:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by RT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already accepted another dinner invitation. To cancel out now would be strictly low class.
You also need to show your boyfriend that you are not available at the drop of a hat because that shows he doesn't respect you, and worse, that you don't respect yourself to allow it.
Keep the first dinner date.
2006-09-19 12:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot of driving for him, but if he loves you he'd do it ina heartbeat. If you really don't want him doing all that, then just save it for the weekend when you both have time and aren't under pressure.
2006-09-19 12:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is a little jealous. I would ask him to come and see you when you both have the extra time to enjoy each other's company for more than 3 hours. In the mean time enjoy your little parade for you birthday with your friend and their family you have earned that.
2006-09-19 12:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just go to dinner with your friend and her family. Your boyfriend can help you celebrate later when it's more convienent.
2006-09-19 12:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 hours driving is not too much if you like someone, especially on your B-day.
2006-09-19 12:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by scotto destructo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont come up. have him come up on the weekend if he can. u already excepted the dinner so you can not reject it. so just have hime come up on the weekend.
2006-09-19 12:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋