We know the wife, she is a great person with 3 lovely kids, and we think her hubby is acting like a slimeball. The female co-worker and he flirt shamelessly in the office, sometimes chatting and giggling by the coffee machine for more than 30 mins while the rest of us work. We don't know that they're actually 'doin it', but if it were my husband, I don't think I'd be ok with their constant flirting and lunch walks alone together.
2006-09-19 12:21:48 · 31 answers · asked by Irrepairable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would tell the wife. MY husband did it for 20yrs. I wish someone would have told me when it started. We've been married for 31yrs. I think about it every day. He took the best years of my life. Now i hate him for it. Tell me who it is I'll tell her. Debbie
2006-09-19 12:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by TERRY R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scriptural principle states that you should go to the person directly and offer them a chance to explain.
You might let him know that his actions around the coffee table suggest that he is having a "relationship" with this other girl and it is turning heads and causing speculation.
There is always that possibility that there isn't anything more than what you are seeing, so you have to give him the benefit of the doubt.
If he admits to an affair then you should suggest he stop and go back to his wife and be the husband she needs him to be.
If he denies an affair, then its not like you can stand there and argue with him, but you can reiterate that if there is not an affair going on, his actions (And his co-worker's) are leading those around them to believe there is.
He has a responsibility to perception and furthermore, flirting with a co-worker is an affair (of the emotions and the heart). He is still dishonoring his wife and his marriage by entertaining such behavior with his co-worker.
If he gets flipping upset and does not own up to at least the "flirting" and excessively long coffee breaks, then I would say that you do have grounds to go higher up and mention it to the boss.
As far as going to his wife... I don't see any provision for that, yet.
2006-09-19 12:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter to you? Are you friends with the wife? If you were that would be a different story, but since it doesn't sound like you are close, I would stay out of it. You don't have enough information and you are basing your judgments off assumptions. You know the old saying, "if you play with fire, you are gonna get burned!!"--the situation will play out however it is supposed to, with or without your involvment. If I were you, I would concentrate on my own life and not worry about what others are doing. I detect a hint of jealousy...are you happy in your relationship?
2006-09-19 12:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating...ACTUALLY cheating...she already knows and it's HER decision to do something about it. If you have a real problem with their "chatting", tell your manager and let him/her deal with it. But if the only reason you have a problem with it is because you know one of their spouses, think real hard..If you didn't know them from Joe Blow down the street would you still care??
It could be harmful flirting with no intentions mixed in. Not all flirty women want to bang the first man that walks by...
2006-09-19 12:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by seax_rising 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay..First off all, You don't know that anything is happening. So do not ruin a "Happy Home" with rumors. This cat may just be BFF with this chick, do you know that he has her over for dinner or for family movie night?? Is it the fact that he's cheating or slackin off at work? The only solution for this problem is confortation. You and your co-workers ask them straight out. WHAT IS GOING ON!!!
2006-09-19 12:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by Alberto G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're probably just friends. I think the reason they get along together is that they're homosexual, and they're discussing the fine arts and fine dining. Oh, and Seinfeld episodes, which is all that giggling you hear. And they're walking to get some exercise, which is not a bad idea during lunch, which some eat their heavily loaded sodium, fat, and carb diets. Mind your own beeswax.
2006-09-19 12:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is affecting the office in terms of work, atmosphere, then definitely - get the office manager/boss involved. If everyone feels uncomfortable about it, they need to know. It is easy to stay out of it, but why do they get to do stuff and make everyone else feel weird about it. NOT COOL !
2006-09-19 12:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something to her approximately it interior the 1st occasion. Your silence is likewise contract. until you overtly merchandise, she would be waiting to think of it extremely is okay and proceed to do it. If she would not get the message, then bypass over her head and talk to a supervisor. additionally tell your spouse what's occurring too. protecting her interior the loop provides you with sturdy help, and could something backfire, you spouse will observe of what's occurring, and could be waiting to part with you. record the situations she has stated irrelevant issues to you, what she stated and whilst she stated it (purely in case).
2016-10-17 07:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the wife is a family member or very best friend stay out of it; I would, if it were me approach my boss about thier unprofessional actions during work, now what they do away from work is really none of your concern!!
2006-09-19 12:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by jrich32103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have someone video tape them interacting at work and send it to the wife and let her decide, You are not helping her any with not telling her. If your mate was doing the same thing at their work, would you want someone to tell you. At this point you are a co-conspirator.
2006-09-19 12:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by donronsen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋