what do you think about this interracial stuff...?

Question

Im in a cafe eating and I start having this "discusson with myself" based on an interracial couple I saw sitting across from me.

so I asked myself " would you ever date someone of another race" and I said
" why not , sure, but I wouldnt want them to be the parent of my child".
" Well, what about the fact that interacial kids tend to be isolated from both groups" ( unless they look strickingly like the other). doesnt that make thier lives hard"

"well is it any harder than being black?"

"well it might be , so what,
well what challenges would they have to face"
"well I guess the most annoying thing would be that the 'what are you ?' question"
"And they have lighter skin, so its not completely being black"
"what are you trying to say"
"what im trying to say is:

(so my final question is)
"do you think being an interacial is harder or easier than being black?"

p.s- I am not crazy, Just a challenging conversation with myself.
=D
dont worry if you dont get it, just answer!

thnx!

Answer 1

I feel great about it! I really don't mind interracial dating. I think its beautiful when people can express their feelings and not bow to the status que placed on us by society. People forget the culture of america and so it seems, there isn't what they would describe a "problem" with this situation, They choose not to address it, well the "problem" is people being color blind, to the specifics of the word, BLIND TO THE COLORS AROUND YOU. They are unwilling to accept them and hence they are not there or you are blind to them. I don't believe in color blindness, its ignorance, it needs to change, be aware of the wonderous variety around you and accept it. I Think its extremly interesting to learn about other people's ways of life. I think its really sad that people of any race can simply 'dis' others becuase they are of any color.

Answer 2

When I saw the first part of the question, I already had formed the answer in my mind, I was going to say race doesnt matter, etc.
But then I read the 'rest' of the question about how the kids feel, and I suddenly don't have such an easy answer. The rational part of me says it still shouldn't mattter, but in reality it probably does, but only for the reason that some other people are not accepting. Those people are shallow and biased, but the fact remains, they are out there. It's gotta be hard on an interracial person in times when they are rudely confronted by these jerks. Should interracial couples not have children because of this? No, but it's gonna be hard on them no matter what. Sad, but a fact.

Answer 3

i dont think you can say that being interracial is "harder" than being black. I imagine it would be different, and I also imagine it would be hard. Unfortunately there are a lot of close minded people out there.
Im latin, like many, of spanish and native american origin, although I look spanish, I am sure that my chidren could have native american features, my wife is Brazilian, and although she looks like a blond caucasian girl, her father is white and her mother is mulatto(much more on the black side). Now, I have no idea what my kids are gonna look like...I think that the most important thing is for people not to see themselves as black or white, its a terrible limiting classification, if we open our minds to try something different, then things can change but if we dont then everything will continue the same.
Although, I am not saying that there arent problems in the marriage, maybe more problems than a normal couple, but I think if both are committed to working things out it can be ok.
i understand your question though, marriages are so hard as it is, adding the interracial factor would make it more difficult. no doubt.

Answer 4

That;s a tough question but I think its harder being interacial from what I have seen and heard. It also makes sense because I know almost everyone today looks for friends, and such, to be of the same desecnt of them and interacial people really don't have that abitlity to have friends simply based on the fact that they have the same background of another person. That probably seems confusing but the short form is that it seems less comforting being ineteracial because outsiders dont have your back JUST because you share the same background, it has to be a more personal relationship.

Answer 5

I think being milato is harder than being black. My two little sisters and my older bro are half black, I am the only all white one. My second to youngest sister is 17, and when she first started middle school it was really hard for her cause the white kids say she acts to black and the black kids say she acts to white. My sister is having a really hard time trying to figure out who she is, and is suffering very badly from an identity crisis. My older brother had it just as hard when skin heads used to chase him home from school. My littlest sister has dealt with it the best, she says she is not a color, she is just herself.

Answer 6

I have been told it is very hard, the "What are you" question is probably rough, but kids ask stupid questions cuz they need to learn. grown folks need to teach kids not to freak out every time someone says something that throws you out of balance. Answer to the best of your abilities, and if it turns into a scrap, kick their a$$.


It's not really a question of "would I" cuz things happen. The question is simple. I don't really think of it much at all. I've dated outside my race, been in long term live-together relationships outside my race, but that rarely came up. If babies are made, so be it. If it's my baby, it doesn't matter if YOU don't like the idea of it, and if it's YOUR baby, then it's none of MY business how you made it, or who with.

Answer 7

If you are biracial and one of your parents are black, then you are black. I think any non-white race may encounter problems especially pertaining to color or culture. Maybe I am biased, but short of the treatment of the Jews in the holocaust, blacks have had it pretty bad...we've probably been treated (as a whole race throughout history)worse than anyone else. That's just my opinion, I am not an expert in racial history.

Answer 8

"And they have lighter skin, so its not completely being black"

How many light skinned, straight haired, blue or green eyed black people are there out there with two black parents? My sister is one of them, and so are lots of my cousins. I live in DC and there are tons of black people of all different shades and textures here. Are they not completely black? And why does being black necessarily have to be considered hard? It's bad enough that white people have to judge and catagorize people of color, including biracial folks. Black people should know better and should be above all that.

Answer 9

It is confusing to have a mixed identity. If your parents are from different ethnic groups, you will never fully feel a member of either tribe. So if it is important that your child feel he or she is fully a member of a certain ethnic group or religion or whatever, their parents should both be from that group. On the other hand, it is extremely valuable to create a lot of people with mixed identities, because that in itself will reduce the tensions between different ethnic groups. Plus, mixed children are beautiful, and genetically healthier than people whose background is more ethnically homogenous.

Answer 10

I think it depends on what geographical area you put the question too. You would get a different answer depending on where and who in that area you ask your question. I have lived in several different areas in the Country and can say that in some areas it would be hard and in some not so hard and some it would be accepted