I live in another state away from my immediate family. My boyfriend invited me to spend the holidays with his family this year, which would definately be easier on the wallet than flying home for the holidays. I've close with the family, and have known them long before we were ever dating, but come Christmas, we will only have been together for 4 months. Is it too soon to be spending the holidays with them? I don't want to rush into a serious relationship, but I have been great friends with him and his family for a long time... What do you think?
2006-09-19 12:13:15 · 13 answers · asked by The New Mrs. Nguyen 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Oh, no, it's definitely not too soon. I'm sure, since you're close to his family, that everyone knows that you live far from home and they'd probably love for you to spend the holidays with them since you can't be home rather than to spend them alone. Have a great time!!!
2006-09-19 13:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going a little against the grain here, but spending a holiday such as Christmas with a boyfriend or girlfriend is usually indicative of a "serious" relationship, one that's headed towards marriage/lifetime committment. Yet you've said that you don't want to rush into a serious relationship. Your family and his will think that's exactly what's happening if you do wind up spending Christmas with his family, and depending on the mothers involved, preliminary wedding plans may start forming in their minds. In my mind, Christmas is a holiday reserved for family. I don't know what your relationship is with your family, but I'm sure they will be extremely hurt if you're not with them at that special time of year. I'd really think about it, and possibly find out what plans are with your own family. Maybe you can spend Christmas with your family, and join your boyfriend over New Years. If money is a factor, maybe your parents can help with the cost of airfare home. I know if cost was what would keep my daughter away over the holidays, I'd be buying her a plane ticket pretty fast. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-09-20 04:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too soon. If you feel uncomfortable about it though maybe you shouldn't. But you need to find out if your uncomfortable because you won't be spending it with your family, or because you think it might strain your relationship. If it's because you'll be away from your family, just make it up to them in another way. Like maybe going home for Easter. But if it's because you think it might strain the relationship, I say go home. You don't want to have doubts and then regret it later. Good luck!
2006-09-19 17:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously thinks a lot of you by asking you over to enjoy Christmas with him and his family. You should feel very pleased that someone thinks so much of you that he is sharing his family's Christmas celebration in their private home.
2006-09-19 12:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by “Mouse Potato” 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific!!! Get them a humorous Christmas action picture, like "The Elf" you all can take a seat after dinner and watch it!!! it's going to make all of them snicker, it is likewise sturdy for any age. it extremely is an inexpansive present that the entire kinfolk gets exhilaration from. perhaps lead them to a card, like with components from scrapbooking, glitter, scrapping sissors and a few stickers, fold it quite mind-blowing, perhaps say something like, considering i did no longer be attentive to you all properly adequate to get you something in my opinion, I even have desperate to hold you the present of Laughter.
2016-10-17 07:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it if you have known the family for years
2006-09-19 12:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you were friends before they would get offended if you didn't show up. Beside when you break up are you still going to talk to his family? I would think so. Go girl have fun, your doing the right thing.
2006-09-19 12:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go spend time with your family and tell him you are missing your parents... if you are having doubts, I think you should wait go with your first instinct
2006-09-19 15:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by ck1_content 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and enjoy yourself with his family, but make sure you call home and let them know you are thinking of them and you love them.
2006-09-19 14:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by kindledkandle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and bright nice gifts for his family with friendly compliments . And let him know you love both his and his family.
2006-09-19 22:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Nguyen H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋