i've had this quesiton of six years take out a couple seconds of your life and maybe i wont feel so screwed

Question

I wouldn't bother asking a bunch of strangers if I wasn't in deep **** or really desperate I'm 15 and iv had this friend (16) since i moved to this little crap town when i was 8 i would tell you the name of it but you'd probably say where? in small towns were all really tight and we were like the brother and sister type until i lost my virginity with him now where not like the brother sister relationship anymore so im not going to listen to anyone who tells me to give up on him it started when his mom died of cancer when he was 9 and his dad got into alcohol which didn't help anything when i was about 10 anyone with common sense could tell something was a little ****** up in that house but cause i was ten i was scared and i didn't want to know because it was so much easier to pretend that everything was fine with him than the marks got deeper and wider and i still avoided it he knew i knew about it but he didn't want me to say anything last night was when i couldn't avoid anything anymore we had a party at his house and things got broke like at all parties but i know that he really got it cause the alcohol was gone i knew he was going to get into trouble but i didn't know he was going to be in the emergency room his dad said he fell down the stairs you can tell his dad said that only a drunk man would say that when corey had marks from a metal pole and a belt falling down the stairs doesn't do that to you but the hospital looked past it because his dad was the one that called the ambulance when we got older he would stay at everyone else's house so he wouldn't get hit but he was drunk when his dad hit him and he couldn't really go anywhere far i figured everything was okay because he wasn't ever home and he would always fight back so 6 years later i finally ask him about it but i didn't really want to hear his sober answer he was always somehow more honest when he was drunk i told him that he has to go live somewhere else that didn't make him to happy because he had big plans and that would **** it up for him so started he screaming and yelling nothing new the worst thing i couldve said to him was corey your just like your ******* dad and he hit me that was the only time i swear but he is becoming his dad drunk and abusive he's so much more than his dad he's got goals and he's really funny and athletic and he's finally breaking down there's only so much one person can deal with i told him it was okay when he hit me but he was the one that freaked got in his car and drove somewhere a couple hours from where we live and when they found him he was passed out drunk laughing saying how he was never going to drink again which he said after every party of course i have a lot of questions but now that he's at home again with his dad in the house waiting for him to be conscious i gota no what the hell do i do now ?il do anything but bail on him

Answer 1

This is such an assinine situation. I don't care who called the ambulance, the father should have been arrested for child abuse. Someone needs to call CPS and have him taken out of the house, away from his fathers influence before it is too late, if it isn't already.

Answer 2

First of all it is NEVER okay for someone to hit you. You need to get some counciling for your self esteem. Now, you must know that unless your friend wants help there is very little you can do for him. You could go to the school councilor if you go to the same school and tell that person what you have said here. But, again, when the councilor talks to him, he would have to be completely honest about what is going on. Your friend could be placed in a better home and get help for the alcoholism. Another option would be for you to go talk to a pastor of a good church. You could get some sound advice there on how to help your friend.

Answer 3

Your friend needs your help. Go to your school counselor and tell them what has happened. The school counselor should report your friends Dad for child abuse to the Police. When this happens, your friend will be able to get some help so, he can stay in a safe place and get some counseling. Your friends Dad also needs some help for his alcohol abuse and his anger. By reporting him, he will be court ordered to get help with AA to get clean and sober and perhaps take anger management classes. Also, it is never okay that your friend hit you!!! You need to tell him that this is not acceptable to you. If I were you, I would back away from this relationship because you don't want him to hurt you again and he has issues that he needs to deal with. Don't become his enabler. Good luck!

Answer 4

Message me ma, cuz I can't even write out a good answer rite now. It would take too much time. And I need a lili bit more information about your guy/boy friend

Answer 5

ok, number one, his dad needs to be turned in so that your guy friend gets the help he REALLY needs too! if you Don't say something and do something, your guy friend is going to start doing what his dad is doing... drinking, being abusive to you, and others, and other bad bad things... his dad is Liable to kill him... his dad is an alcoholic... you might need to talk to someone you trust about this! really
Good Luck!

Answer 6

I know you don't want to hear this, but he will grow up like his dad and if you stick around, you're gonna get beat up. Get out or get used to it

Answer 7

sounds like he needs your support and his dad needs AA

Answer 8

You might receive more answers if your question wasn't in book form.

Answer 9

If you're going to write something that long, please use punctuation.