ok, so a friend of mine told me he was gay. just out of the blue, i never even expected it, because he is quite popular with all the girls. the problem is that he likes a totally straight guy i know. the fact that my friend is gay changes nothing between us, we r really close, and always will be. but how am i supposed to deal with him liking the guy i liked ?? i know i flirt a lot with the guy my friend likes. in fact the guy i flirt with liked me. so what do i do? stop flirting?? thats impossible. i feel terrible cuz i know my friend likes this guy a lot. WHAT DO I DO??????
2006-09-19 11:56:02 · 16 answers · asked by vanilla fudge 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this friend- X is one of the best friends i have ever had!! we r really close. i totally love him, in a platonic way. i cud never do anything to hurt him. im just so confused rite now. i dont like the straight guy that much, im just trying to deal with everything. my friend X knows that i liked the guy he likes. i want to know how i can help my friend, any books, anything. i cant find any sources to help me to deal with this news!!! AAAAAAAAAHH!! major freak out. and if it came to that, i wud probablly not b able to go out with the straight guy even if he asked me out.
2006-09-19 12:13:59 · update #1
Lol worst time to panic is now, so don't panic. Wow Hmmm that is very hard to answer. I think that your friend is probably going to stop liking that guy, because he will realize that the guy he likes is straight, and wont any interest at all on ur crush. I think you should lay down on the flirting just a little for a couple of days or so, and then see how your gay friend feels about ur crush, and if he stills feel strongly ur crush, then just planely ask him " Is it okay if I still flirt with him just as I always have done?"
2006-09-19 11:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy. Don't give up the flirting. #1- the guy is straight and probably would hurt your friend by rejection. It might not be real polite you know? Depending on how he feels about that choice. #2- if you and your gay friend are really close, you should be able to speak honestly about your feelings and let him know that the guy is straight.
2006-09-19 12:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am gay, and I know that some gay people have a thing for straight people, but I don't like it. I would want to be with someone who has the same interests as me. But, there is nothing that you can do because his heart is set on him and stopping him would break it.
2006-09-19 11:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Caribbean Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds made up. Like a Hollywood sitcom. But there is a possibility that this is true. So I would say that you should just let the gay guy have him. And then you should steal him from the gay guy. And then you should give him to Lindsay Lohan. And then she should give him to one of the guys from Brokeback Mountain. Heath or Jake.
2006-09-19 11:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by cannonball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if the guy you both like really is straight, then your friend doesn't have an actual chance to date him. just as if you liked a guy who was gay; would you be mad at your friend because this other guy liked him instead of you?
you're not taking anything from him, so he'd be a big poop-head if he gets mad at you.
and let him tell everyone else he's gay. that's not your business (in case you wondered....).
2006-09-19 12:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're freaking somewhat. Why can not you look for an house at the same time and then pass in after the marriage. it is going to easily be 'his' place if he unearths it and decorates it on my own. 3 months will bypass by great rapid. it is going to take some weeks to discover an house besides. And on my own time is sturdy.
2016-10-17 07:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep flirting girl! ur gay friend won't hate u 4 flirting. it's like normal around other frineds. u like the same guy, u talk about him... Just be open about it w/ the gay 1. (no offence)
2006-09-19 11:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Harry Potter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend can ask the guy out. You don't need to stop flirting. It's a level playing field.
2006-09-19 11:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend about it. If he is a true friend he'll understand. Just say that you like that guy to. Just tell him that you cant just stop flirtin. If he seems mad or somthing choose if you want to keep a great friendship or a guy that might dump you and want talk to agian. Good Luck.
2006-09-19 11:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP.
He might be attracted to the same guys you think are attractive - but if the guys you date are STRAIGHT then your gay friend won't be trying to date them.
GAY MEN date GAY MEN, they don't hit on straight guys. He is NOT competition to you now, so get OVER YOURSELF.
2006-09-19 12:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋