What are some drawback to marrying at an early age?

Answer 1

Most people don't know who they really are until they are in their thirties. When you get married not knowing who you REALLY are - inside and outside - your values, likes, dislikes, etc., there's a strong risk that you'll choose someone that is incompatible.

There is no reason that this couldn't work out in the long run. My wife and I met and married young (at least she did), but we were stubborn and went through ten years of grief and torment discovering each other. Now, after 18 years of marriage, we are so strong that it's incredible. But again, we went through a lot of pain to get to that place.

Also, if you have children in your teens or early twenties, your life is basically over, unless that's what you want.

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Answer 2

iT MAKES 4 A long very hard life. what are the advantages is a better question? I married at 18 we were together almost 8 years. The drawbacks we were not MATURE or ready people GROW a whole LOT from 18 to 25ish. We were not ready to be tied down WE BOTH lost the early18's 20's and being with friends going to college we were being mom and dad to a baby. We could not get jobs that paid enough to get a home or nice things because we were young under educated. We both had poor coping skills due to being young. In general we deprived each other of life experience that would have made us better able to deal with married life. Young people are not GENERALLY $$$ responsible we SCREWED up both of our credits with cards and things out of our means. We divorced we stared to HATE each other we were VERY different people then we were at 18. Now I'm a lot older just now getting my own home getting my credit straight I have two kids to tag along to daddy's gone. THERE is no RESASON not to wait love is a not going to stop if you wait a few years before getting married and starting a family there are no advantages to being a wife or husband at 18.

Answer 3

Drawbacks....Lets see...I got married for the first time when I was 18...I missed college, had 2 kids that I was NOT ready for (I still love them) and it all ended in divorced because I was too young to realize I was SELFISH.
When *I* was young I thought everything was going to bloom like big hot house roses and be perfect. All I had to do was clean and cook and perform for him and everything would be perfect. Little did I realize that that was NOT who *I* was. I'm a strong-willed, very opinionated woman who will not settle for anything less than an opinionated self-sufficient man strong-willed man who will allow me to BE me and encourages personal growth. I am so lucky I finally did find him, and REALIZE when I found him.

Anywhoo...my advice, WAIT. Just learn who you are. If he does care about you he will encourage your growth and even help with it and wont care if you're 18 or 48 when you marry

Answer 4

The problem that's pointed to most often is that young people lack the maturity to know what their getting into. And, for some that's undoubtedly true. But, I've known couples who married at 17 and 18 and are still happily married today, forty years later. and others who married in their late 20s and had the whole thing flop in less than two years. So, does maturity and experience really mean all that much? In my estimation, marriage is a crap shoot at best. Some win big and other lose their shirts.

Answer 5

I got married when I was 19. turned 20 shortly after. Been almost 5 years. The only drawback that I could possibly think of is, you are young. What if someone comes along that you think you might like better than the person you married? Other than that, I have no complaints.

Answer 6

Some of the drawbacks might be that one of you hasn't finished sowing their wild oats yet, you might feel that you missed out on some dreams, not enough $$, ummm.....you still haven't fully "grown" up yet as people so you could grow apart in a few years...hmm...what else...

Oh yeah, being a young parent can be tough! Anyway, there ARE some pros to getting married young...but in my opinion, the Cons outweigh the Pros. It's a lot easier to just wait a few years and then do it!

Answer 7

Statistics say you will most certainly be POOR your whole life. People who marry young statistically don't make much of themselves and are plagued by bills and debt. There are always exceptions, but most of the people working at burger king and jiffy lube are young husbands/wives/parents.

You have a higher chance of divorce than the average couple, over 50%.

Your children are more likely to have probelms and do poorly in school.

WAIT UNTIL AT LEAST 25 before marrying anyone and don't have kids until at least 2 years in!

Answer 8

Depends on your definition of early.

But the usual draw back is that you mature at different stages in life. You are a different person at 27 than you were at 20 and so on. Usually late twenties are good to start at when deciding on marriage.

If you marry in your early twenties to someone eight to ten years older you will realize in eight years that you have grown and are not the person you were before and would want out.

Take your time and use common sense in your decision making with a mate and don't let your emotions control you.

Take care

Answer 9

I was married at 19 and my husband was 19. We both are happy that we married eachother, but in a way wish we would have waited a few more years. You can't experience the same things being single as married obviously, so it depends on how much "living" you think you need to do...

Answer 10

Welllllll..... For one thing, people who marry at a young age generally speaking do not have the maturity or the life experiences to make a lifelong commitment. Why not take your time and be young? Marriage comes with a lot of huge responsibilites. The saddest thing about young marriages, is young divorced couples.