She hates sex . some how i have to talk her, pamper her or almost force her to have sex (Very rare). She doesnt like to discuss it, she tries to avoid foreplay....what do i do ... how to convince her.
2006-09-19 11:50:59 · 34 answers · asked by biker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have kids . except for sex she is great. I love her, a good mother too.
2006-09-20 14:17:09 · update #1
if she hasn't changed recently, then you should have known about this long before you became so involved. if she refuses to discuss this or cannot see that she is not fulfilling her end of the bargain then she really needs professional help.
if you love her deeply then make sure she gets the help she needs. if she refuses then she has already broken her relationship with you. she is either getting sex somewhere else or has emotionally dumped you for some problem that she does not want solved.
stress and alcohol and drugs can all effect a persons drive. but a person has got to want help before you can help them if she refuses help then she has placed you in an impossible position.
2006-09-22 17:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Vivian Vixen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether you have children or she has all the work to do in the house. If either of those are the case, pamper her, let her get some rest. I suggest you try to be supportive and if that doesn't work, seek a counselor. You obviously love this woman and forcing her to have sex doesn't show love. Talk to her about what she likes and if something hurts or if she would like to try something else. I had a huge tumor that took several years to find. I didn't want sex or foreplay because they really hurt. The doctor was convinced it was because I didn't like sex. He had to eat crow when the tumor was the size of a grapefruit and they finally found it. Check her medical status as well. No one wants to do something that hurts. Good luck to both of you.
2006-09-19 11:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This questions seems like something you might want to ask someone who has a little more experience or a degree of some sort. But, I my personal experiences I have found that when this happens in the relationship it is because of one of two factors. First, the person not interested in sex is getting it somewhere else. In other words they are cheating. Second, the person is trying to push you away. These are the only two reasons I have come across. But, there may be other underlying factors, such as...did you have a normal sex life before?...has something tramatic happened lately?...has she become depresses or distant? As far as fixing the problem...it all depends on what exactly is causing this.
2006-09-19 11:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by kater_tot01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to have a serious talk with her to find out if she has a problem, was she always like this? Maybe a counselor or a visit with the doctor is in order. She has to understand what this does to you and it's truly not fair to have to go through this with a partner.
2006-09-19 12:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 03:57:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Almost force" her? And you say she doesn't want to sleep with you? No kidding?
Nothing is more of a turn-off that someone who is endlessly badgering you to have sex with them. I'll bet she doesn't even want to hug or kiss you, in case you then expect more.
Try taking the pressure off, and hug and kiss her WITHOUT trying to take it further. Tell her that you won't pressure her, you just want a snuggle, and mean it. She might appreciate it, and it might help bring her round to thinking of you as a romantic guy again.
2006-09-19 11:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by gellhorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a new life partner or have a good talk to see why she is avoiding it. She might have lost interest in you OR might be getting it somewhere else.
2006-09-19 12:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by igɳo★ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. You shouldn't have to convince her she should want to do it. Tell her that she needs to discuss it because it isn't fair to you that she won't have sex or give you a reason why she won't. Good luck
2006-09-19 11:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by bababoey24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are not doing something right or do you both work and have kids at home, if so maybe a nice vacation just the two of you would do. IF you think she is cheating ask her only you would know. which ever if you love her you will get things right.good luck!!!!!
2006-09-19 12:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by sarah l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a new partner.
And before you find a partner...be sure you have similar intimacy needs. Also be sure to have a "whatif" plan.What if one of you lose the desire what will you do? It is very important.
2006-09-19 11:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋