After 7 years and 2 engagements, my boyfriend still wants to wait and work on some issues before getting married. I think that we will always have issues and by now he should know if he will commit to marriage. I do not mean run off today to Vegas. I do not want to give an ultimatu. I just do not want to stay in this with out that tangible commitment. He always says "I DO want to get married just not now." We are pushing 40 with no prior marriages. He does not see my side or acts like I do not make sense .....IO say after 7 years you should be able tell and not have to "work through more issies. I think we should commit and work on the issues within the context of a commitment. I think the more problems we solve as a couple and not as man and wife. The more apt we are to get divorced because I feel his mind is still looking for a way out. He says I am unreasonable, I think he is unreasonable. WHAT ARE THE WORDS TO USE?
2006-09-19 11:47:49 · 4 answers · asked by sweet pea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he's afraid of marriage and the "committment". I think you should start looking elsewhere.Some people, such as myself are ending marriages after 7 yrs. I mean, you know each other well enough by this time that you can probably finish each others sentences etc. I think he is just leading you on as far as the marriage part is concerned. You have to make up your mind if you want to stay in this situation as it is, or give it up. I'm 47 and divorced twice. It doesn't get any easier to find an elgible "partner" as you get older being female or male.
2006-09-19 11:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships always have issues - but good relationships can work through them - it's called COMMUNICATION. Marriage doens't solve all your problems, it just gives you a different set of issues and a good relationship will take the time to work through them.
This man has issues - and he is NEVER GOING TO MARRY YOU. He has strung you along this far and he keeps getting his way. I say leave him and find someone who will commit to you 100%
2006-09-19 18:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by KB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow if the milk is free, uh-huh!
You are not the only woman in his life- You're his COMFORTABLE SHOES" and on the side line or limelights he got GO GIT EM SALLY" somewhere. Oh, darling! he knows what you're about and wants nothing to do with the rest of your personalities...
Try going to a GYM that might work. Guys are selfish about how bodies should look. especially on a woman.
2006-09-19 18:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by NEMESIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already found the words, your questions is articulate enough. I can't believe you've wasted all this time on such a commitmentphobe.
2006-09-19 18:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋