Thank you for your recent advice EVERBODY!My husband & I made an agreemeent last night that we would lay everything on the table about my stepson living in our house with no chores no paing rent and he has a full time job.(It was football "monday night")LOL I luv it to~All 3 of us were 2 sit down discuss $50.00 a week & chores.My husband told me in the shower that nothings going to change & no discussion about anything.I told my hsband i what is your son excusive to the world?HE said it benifits us & him.WRONG IT does't benifit us money wise are bills are higher .His son learns no responsibilityWhat is he exclusive to the world? please tell me if i'm wrong?I'm going to leave !
2006-09-19 11:25:46 · 11 answers · asked by funnynotlost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the same problem with my husband, and I fix it. One day my husband went out to do some business, and I was tired of talking, fighting, begging, crying and upsetting myself. I knew my husband would have be gone for two or so hours so I changed ALL the lacks on the doors, closed ALL the credit cards, close ALL bank accounts (and took the money), changed the locks on the mail box, turn off ALL cell phone, changed the alarm code for the house, and I sat and waited. Twenty four hours later my husband came to the house, and I spoke to him through the window, he did all the talking. I said nothing because for two years I talked, I cried, I yelled, I begged so there was nothing more for me to do. He talked for about 20 minutes, then he start begging, and I said nothing, but I am looking at him in his eyes. So for a few minutes he said nothing, so I said I guess you are finish so "Have a nice day." My husband walked away from the door with his head down to the ground crying. I then called him back, and I said you know what you need to do to make me happy. I then gave him ALL the new keys, made him dinner, and I have NEVER had another problem with my husband or step child. My husband respects me and my husband made sure every human being that enters our home respects me. We are in love.
2006-09-19 12:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child should have chores no matter what age. If your stepson is old enough to get a job then he should and start helping out with the bills. sounds like your husband might be sticking up for him because he feels some sort of guilt, which happens in a lot of divorce cases. I say talk to him and his son, there is no excuse for being lazy, you are 100% right about teaching the kid responsibility. If you husband just won't comply with the rules nor his son, then I would leave him. Let him baby his son all he wants, he'll find out later when the kid is like 35, overweight, no friends except druggies and alcoholics, and bringing crack whore prostitutes over to the house to watch football. It sounds like your man is really irresponsible too! Leave him. Both of them will get a whiff of reality in time to come. LOL
2006-09-19 11:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely right about son. Hes going to have to grow up sooner or later and learn reality. And theres no time like the present to learn that lifes not easy and favors no one. Hes definitely not going to find a nice place for $50 a week plus chores. I just hope youre not cleaning up after that kid and cleaning the house by yourself and cooking too. Instead of leaving backoff alittle on the cleaning and cooking, washing, etc and let both your husband and son learn a valuable lesson. If they dont then leavethem to fend for themselves. Good luck
2006-09-19 11:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe you are wrong, but how old is the stepson. You say he has a full time job so I am guessing he is a young adult. As soon as you are working, you need to give something to your parents (step or otherwise) if you are living with them towards your living expenses. There's no such thing as a free ride.
2006-09-19 11:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember your question from before.I Don't know why your husband is so strong on not having your stepson pay rent and do no chores. it is not right. you are a no winner here not even a small chance of being a winner. you are not important in the matter . stay .....leave it is your choice it is two against one....
2006-09-19 11:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kid sounds like a sponger, if he is at work he should help out at home. I bet he will still be at home when he is 40 !
Handing everything to kids on a plate teaches them NOTHING!!!!.
My children, once they started earning money they paid board, even though it cover nothing that was done for them, they learn nothing in life is free!
If your husband can't see this he needs to have his eyes opened. IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW MUCH YOU GIVE KIDS, YOU CAN'T BUY LOVE!
It educates them in life matters!
2006-09-19 11:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Swaggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent wronge. I'm serious that kid needs to grow up and if he's over 21 than he definatly needs to move out. or at least pay some kind of rent.
2006-09-19 11:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by iluvhugs07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. How old is his son, though. Your husband isn't acting like a husband but a tyrant.
2006-09-19 11:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right he needs to help out with bills and chores. he is not a king. i wouldnt leave just yet let him know if he doesnt want to discuss then you will leave.
2006-09-19 11:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowerchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your wrong
2006-09-19 11:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋