My friend, 23, inherited a lot of money from his grandfather. He have considered marrying/engagin his girlfriend, no job but a part time model, who is damm beautiful. (both of them want to get married and their parents agreed) He wants to make a prenup for the money. Should he ask for the prenup? what is the best way that he can ask for without hurting her feelings?
2006-09-19 11:23:10 · 10 answers · asked by smilecow28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, a Prenup should be necessary. Sometimes good looking women are into a marriage for the money. To be on the safe side, he should get a prenuptial agreement so that she is well aware that if he is dead or alive, separated or together, his inheritance will not be split if divorce is in their future.
What he should say to her is, "I want you to know that I love you but I made a decision that I feel will make me most comfortable. I will not marry you unless you sign a prenuptial agreement. It's not that I don't trust you, I do, but I want to be on the safe side. My grandfathers money is important to me and I don't want to be used. I know you're not using me but you never know if money could turn someone into a greedy person. And, if we end up not working out, I don't want to end up broke after a divorce. So, if you love me, you'll understand my decision."
2006-09-19 11:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should just say that he wants to protect his interest now, while they are in love and getting along, than to have fights over material things if their marriage doesn't work. If the girl doesn't want to sign a prenup, then he may want to reconsider. She makes a statement about her feelings if she is unwilling to sign away her rights to material things in order to be married.
Just for the record, I have heard that inheritance is protected by law, regardless of whether a prenup is signed. My take on this, I would rather be safe than sorry!
2006-09-19 11:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by ncmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The prenup might not be necessarily. Generally, inherited money belongs to the person who inherited it and NOT the spouse. This is true in both community property and non community property states.
Tell your friend not to commingle the money. In other words, keep his money separate. Do not put her name on it! Do not use the money to buy a house (unless he can buy it outright with only his name on the deed)! Do not add money to the account! Do not use the money to buy anything that they share!
Have him talk to a divorce lawyer and have the divorce lawyer set him straight on how he can keep the money separate without a prenup...unless of course he wants the prenup anyway.
2006-09-19 11:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by steven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Misz Nina..."Its not like I trust you, I do".....LOL. If a prenuptual agreement isnt an indication that you dont trust someone then what is?
I know there are people out there who marry for money, but there are just as many people out there who have money but marry out of love. I know me and I know if my fiance asked me to sign a pre-nuptual agreement, then I would believe the marriage would be doomed to failure because the money would be the most important and not me.
Money can turn people into greedy creatures, but you cant take it with you, you may as well spend it and enjoy your life and having a beautiful woman by your side to share it with while you are alive.
If he thinks there is any chance that she is marrying him because of the money, then I would seriously think about not marrying her. Did she fall in love with him before she knew about the inheritance? If she did, then a pre nuptual agreement would be a slap in the face for anyone who was seriously in love with their man. If she knew about the inheritance and then fell in love with him, then maybe there is reasons to worry.
If he is thinking more about the money than spending the rest of his life with the woman of his dreams, then I wouldnt marry him at all.
2006-09-19 11:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not hurt my feelings if my fiancé approached me with the idea of a pre-nup. In fact, we have discussed it, and even consulted a lawyer about it, but found out that the stuff we wanted to put in there would be covered automatically under the state laws pertaining to divorce. Your friend can consult a lawyer on his own, and decide if he even needs to bring it up, perhaps his concerns are already addressed by the law. To be "offended" about a pre-nup would be pretty immature.
2006-09-19 11:35:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think either way it will hurt her feelings. If I was that girl, I would be like alright, then I would be like no never mind. If he doesn't trust her, why does he want to marry her?
2006-09-19 11:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means ask for the prenup.if it hurts her,then so be it.i did not have alot to give my ex's,but paid them both dearly.you have alot so it would seem,and you will lose most of it if you fall into the 6 out of ten marraiges that fail.so do you feel lucky?well do you?
2006-09-19 11:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by shookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to hurt her feelings but considering that more than half of all marriages end in divorce he would be stupid to not have one.
2006-09-19 11:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by vickyc76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should ask for one, if she loves him, then it shouldn't be a big deal. Remember that she is marrying him for who he is, not for his money.
2006-09-19 11:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it or pay dearly
2006-09-19 11:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋