At what point is your wife's male friend becoming an emotional support for her that leans towards emotional adultery?
2006-09-19 10:49:19 · 21 answers · asked by RedC. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all you need to tell her that is how you are feeling. If it isn't anything more than a friendship she should try distancing herself a bit from him.
Sometimes it's easier for a woman to talk to a man about problems...I have alot of guy friends...that are just that...guy friends.
But if you feel she is opening herself too much, and it's making you uncomfortable, she needs to know for the both of you!
At least by telling her how you feel, she will be aware and you will feel better letting her know you feel a bit threatened by the whole situation.
Good Luck.
2006-09-19 10:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
emotional adultery is adultery and it starts when she is in the company of this individual out of your presence and knowledge either one or both at the same time. It is a fine line and it is crossed at these cross roads.
It is inappropriate for any spouse to be with someone of the opposite sex alone even when the other spouse knows. This is a sign of what you are asking about.
No married in their right mind would want to be with someone of the opposite sex without their spouse being present. If they argue that nothing is going on, then they are hiding something.
It's not right and you should confront your wife and let her know how wrong it is and if she argues that it is not, it's time for marriage counseling.
This is truely disrespecting you and your marriage if she does not stop it.
I hope the best for you and your marriage.
2006-09-19 18:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by Martin M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Emotional Adultery? Never heard of that one! I can understand feeling uncomfortable if ones mate spends more time, and confides more in a friend of the opposite sex, but adultrey? It seems to me that if she has to go male friend to talk to, she needs advice from a male's point of view. It also shows that she has a reason that she cannot talk to you. You may want to take a look at how the two of you communicate and how you respond to each other. You could even talk to her friend, I would assume that it is a mutual friendship?
2006-09-19 17:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very tricky... I basically agree with what tool said up there...
If your wife needs emotional support from another man... I would be worried and/or seeking help.
I seek emotional support from family and girlfriends... not men... (except for my man)... we have talked about this in length... We even consider it cheating to write others on myspace or other websites of the opposite sex with no live contact whatsoever... but we are really honest and clear about what is OK and not OK.
Starting to just be friends with a guy for girls is a dangerous place and the beginning to affairs. If you don't give her what she needs... maybe you need to work on building trust and intimacy. That way she doesn't look for it somewhere else...
She may not even know that this is the case...
good luck!
2006-09-19 18:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is unwilling to give up the friendship for the sake of the marriage. Any true friend would understand that. Also, in marriage there is no such thing as a friend of the opposite sex unless it is a mutual friend. Inevitably someone becomes a shoulder to lean on and from there it moves further.
2006-09-19 21:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's already occurred. Women's sex is emotional. Not physical. It is the emotional vulnerability this guy has already qued in on so he can now receive sex. You lost her the moment she emotionally invested into to him and not you. But think, maybe this is not her fault!?!? Most of the time this happens because the husband doesn't know how to communicate with the wife which in all makes her feel wanted.
2006-09-19 18:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tool's got it right.
The moment she confides in him and not you, it's all over.
All she's waiting for is the right moment and enough of an excuse.
Sadly, trying to talk to her about it might be the excuse she needs. She'll claim you're jealous, controlling, and don't want her to have any friends. You know, crap. At that point, she'll storm out and come back a few hours later. Glowing. Not that you'll notice, cuz she'll be cold and indifferent to you.
Worst case scenario, of course. You have to talk to her, though... she has to know this bothers you. I just hope it isn't too far gone. Good luck.
2006-09-19 18:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by kagetatewaki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife's need for her friends support and attention exceeds what you can understand, accept and if she feels she has to keep the time spent with him a secret, this is a form of unfaithful behavior
Couples boundary setting in this area vary,but it is up to the two of you to set the boundary for acceptable behavior in your own relationship. You need to talk to her and become clear on your mutual expectations.
Good luck into seeking a honest discussion with your wife so that you can come to a trusting place in your relationship.
2006-09-19 17:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by Serendipity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a very thin line emotional adultery is emotional support,it happens very fast some dont even know when till they are way to involved
2006-09-19 17:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've never heard of the term emotional aldultery. does that mean because i confide in my best friend who is woman...and she know my innermost secrets and all...does that make me a lesbian??? c'mon now... adultery is physical. if your wife needs to confide in another male...friend or not, then somehow someway, you and her are not communicating effectively. i love my husband very much. i have always had a lot of male friends, but do i go to them with all my emotional baggage?? heck no...thats where my husband comes in...he's my best friend first...has to be that way. i spend a lot of time with my girl best friend too. her family and mine co-exist in the same home. (investment purposes) anyways, when there are things i cant tell my husband or feel uncomfortable, then of course i tell my friend. we all need someone to dump our stuff on. if your wife seems to be doing a lot of "dumping" to her male friend, you might wonder why she isn't coming to you for that need...perhaps the focal point of they're conversations revolve around you...whether its good or bad...you'd have to know...good luck...but really go talk TO your wife about how it makes you FEEL!!
2006-09-19 18:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by life beyond yur wildest dreams 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋