i am going through a hard time and looking for a friend to get me through it?

Question

things in my life are really really hard right now and i am looking for a man to comfort me. my hubby is leaving me and i just want to feel wanted.

Answer 1

i think you need to look to yourself before you look to a man. find out why you are so lonely. and if you still do need a man then you can borrow mine. lol.

Answer 2

We all just want to run away from are problem and think by helping it would be replacing what you are missing. In your case a man. But right now your not thinking right at all. You need to realize that if you want a man to help you out, and you think a another will help you get through this. Remember how you got this way in the frist place...a man! So if the problem was a man, the answer is not a man! You need time away from guys, even though you want that feeling of someone who loves you and comfort you through things, you need a friend not a man. You need either a family member to talk to or a girl friend who will be there. You need to take this time to be single and take it day by day, and soon you will be happy you didnt rush into another realtionship and take your time so than the next time you fall in love it will be a sure thing! You are looking for a rebound man, and no one deserves to be a rebound person, you will just end up hurting them in the long run, dont hurt others because you got hurt. The hurting has got to stop somewhere! Get out of the house go out with just the girls, do things that you wanted to do when you couldnt because of this guy. Enjoy life! You will be happy you did!

Answer 3

Its a terrible time, and whoever said you needed sex is an idiot. Its nothing to do with sex, its about feeling wanted.

When I split from my husband I had a terrible time. I felt so lonely. I had lots of female friends, but the person who helped me the most was the husband of a good friend of mine. He hugged me for a good hour, didnt say anything, just let me cry. I dont know what it was, but it was very comforting for me. Maybe it was because of his strong arms around me...I dont know.

I also know when you go through something like this your self esteem is at its very lowest...you feel like sheet. You blame yourself thinking you could have done/not done something to prevent this from happening. It is nice for your self esteem for a man to be interested in you again. Its nice to know you are still attractive to the opposite sex because like I said you would have no self esteem left.

It has nothing to do with sex, its to do with making yourself feel good about yourself. In saying that however, just be careful that you dont jump into a relationship because you are lonely and feeling sad. While I do understand your needs, you first need some good solid help from a professional maybe. Go see your doctor, tell him how you are feeling. Many women/men who go through a divorce will suffer depression and it can be helped.

You will get through this. You will probably make a lot of mistakes during this period, but let me tell you this is normal. Yes, you do need support....from good friends and possibly a counsellor.

The male thing I understand completely because if you are anything like me, when my marriage split I felt like the ugliest woman on this earth and my female friends couldnt make me feel better about how I saw myself...only a man could do that. I needed to know I was still attractive and desirable. It is not the answer, but it does help.

I wish you well....you will get there, but its going to take some time until you start to feel good about yourself again.

Answer 4

My dear I think you need more then just a man to help you, you need all the support you can get from both genders and friends. But the best comfort is a local church-When times get rough as the old saying goes.....

Answer 5

Well I was going to offer you friendship but since you say you want a man to comfort you it sounds more like you are looking for sex and a possible rebound. Good Luck

Answer 6

Why do you feel that you need a man to feel wanted? Don't you want you? Don't you want to want you to feel better? Make yourself feel better. Comfort yourself. Only you know what makes you feel good.

I get that your husband is leaving you, for whatever reason, and you're feeling down and depressed about it, and you have that right to feel those emotions, but what will happen when you get over those feelings? Would you want another man to want you when you're down there in the dumps?

A man wants a woman who is confident in herself. What you need to do, when you're ready, is to get some confidence in yourself. The only way to do that is to want your self.

Do something that you didn't do when you were married. Take care of your self now. I know that sounds selfish, but that's the beauty of it!! You're taking care of your self and you're doing things that you want to do, things that make you feel good. Give your self permission to do whatever it is that makes you feel good and special and first!

Whatever those things are, do them. Let us know how you're doing.

Answer 7

Don't substitute loneliness with emotions. Take a knee, pray or meditate and connect with God or your self and you will find what your looking for to comfort you in the time of need..

Answer 8

I can't seem to email you through your profile. Check mine out and my 360 page to message me. Honestly, I'm feeling the same exact way. For me, I just want a sense of self value again. If you need a friend to vent to, I'll do it.

Answer 9

get wit someone esle that will be good 2 u and forget bour ur husband let him go u can do so much more wit him,

Answer 10

Oh and this is a great place to do just that. Grow up.