Daughters relationship?

Question

My oldest daughter has been seeing a bloke for about a year, sometimes they get on sometimes they do not, she tells me he beats her and he is seeing someone else. She is always crying and she even askes him to take her back. It makes me feel sick when she does this. I am really fed up with it all. I hate the way he treats her. I wish she would have more pride and not bover with him. She even told me when she gets paid he wants to be around her but when he has money she does not see him. I have told her time and time again to finish with him. but she will not listen. She keeps calling him. She is makeing a total fool of herself.

Answer 1

Ya know, I am sure you are a great mum, and have taught her best as you could... you have told her how you feel and until she learns for her self and is ready to leave.... she probably won't....

the best thing you can do for her is just be there to talk to...and a shoulder for her to cry on....eventually she will realizes you are right, but if you tell her over and over and over again - she may just resent you and feel she isn't able to talk to you.

GREAT Q - very common... unfortunatley....

I wish you the best of luck and hope she wises up!!!

Answer 2

You are a good dad. I was in a realtionship close to what your daughter is in. After he tears down everything she likes about herself he then moves in to the physical abuse. From what you described he sounds like he is using drugs. There is really nothing you can do but tell your daughter that you love her and that this guy will only end up killing her. I know this from exsperiance. It was a act of God that I am able to be writing this right now. She needs to know that he doesn't love her and when he says it , it is to get something from her. Once he gets what he wants he tears her down again. You must know that this will remain getting worse. Have her talk to a police officer next time he hits her. This will get the ball rolling. Pray every day for her as my parents did. It saved my life!

Answer 3

Some people just dont ever learn. And im sorry to tell you that your daughter has got no self esteem at all. She will stay with him no matter what....thats pretty obvious. She wont listen to anybody so theres really nothing you can say to her to change her mind. And it really sucks as her mother to wathc your daughter get treated like a dog.

Answer 4

You are her father even if she is a grown woman. Tell her how much this hurts you that she is still involved with a man that abuses her. Also tell your daughter how much you care about her and that you will help her as much as possible, but she needs to help herself also.

She does deserve much better and she must have a low self esteem. She needs therapy and to leave this jerk immediately.

Good luck.

Answer 5

if he beats her then have his a$$ put in jail. forbid her to see him - well don't do this this will just make her want to see him even more - she will have just have to learn through this experience. there is not really much you can do without it having adverse reactions. all he wants is her money when he has none and a piece of booty. hate to be so blunt but that is what it sounds like to me.

Answer 6

No matter who the person is, your daughter needs to determine why she needs this relationship. She needs to talk to someone to identify her need and then resolve the issue. Until then, she's probably going to find the same relationship in another person.

Answer 7

Wish I could tell you why but can't. Nearest I can think is it's an addiction to misery. What does she say when you ask her what she gets from the relationship?

Answer 8

I agree with you.Just sometimes theres nothing you can do. She has to want to change of being.Running away or after people is never a good sign. theres allways a reason why !