how do i tell my dad who recently told me he wuz homosexual(gay) that i don't feel comfortable around hiz boyfriend nd that it is going to take me some time for me to adjust to him/it.And that i don't wanna meet ne of hiz b/f's or 'gay' friends yet.
2006-09-19 10:35:48 · 14 answers · asked by Jazzi_Pha 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just like that.
It's ok to want to take some time to "warm up" to the knowledge that your dad is gay. It's normal to be thrown a little off balance. But know that your dad told you because he loves you and doesn't want to lie to you. Be grateful that he trusts and loves you so much that he shared this with you.
It's ok to tell him that it is going to take some time for you to get used to his news and to ask for some space. I'm sure he'll understand and because he loves you, he will respect you for your honesty to him.
2006-09-19 10:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Saying that you're going to take some time to adjust is fine and you should be able to tell him at anytime, though I suggest soon because otherwise it might seem like you've been "hiding" it.
2. Don't you think it's a bit rude to say you don't want to meet any of his friends or dates--though most particularly? It's not as if he's going to throw you into a S/M club and, if he knows you're not fully open to it yet, he won't go out of his way to make you uncomfortable.
I'm sure he's all too happy to meet YOUR friends, the least you could do is repay him that respect.
2006-09-19 17:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Belie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can just come out and tell him,, especially if you pay the rent and share all the bills...
I know that life should revolve around you and only you.. So your dad should stop his life hmmmmm.... I wonder if the day come when you tell your dad you are pregnant he can say,, you know I don't know if I'm ready for that right now, I'm not comfortable.. Or if he meets your big bad boyfriends, or your friends......
2006-09-19 18:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nicely. Say sorry and try not to let your anger show.
It's not really his fault you know. He was probably dying in the relationship with your mother. Things are very difficult for him now so give him a break and let him feel he's still got his daughter.
2006-09-19 17:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's it, that you have to adjust. You still love him, but you have to adjust.
I told someone else earlier today that a lot of times, kids whose parents have been widowed or divorced are often not fond of their parents' new partners, no matter what their gender. What you're feeling is normal.
2006-09-19 17:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, but thanks for the 2 points.
Just remember that however hard it is for you, it is 10 harder for him.
He took a huge risk that you would disown him, hate him, be completely shocked and disgusted. It took a lot of courage and trust for him to let you in. Don't slam that door shut.
Be kind, and tell him to be kind to you, too.
There is no question, to which "love" is not the answer.
Good luck.
2006-09-19 17:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and explain it to him. Make sure he understands that you love him and all that, but that it's going to take some time before you're comfortable and you hope he can respect your feelings.
2006-09-19 17:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just sit him down and explain i'm sure he would understand tell him how hard it is for you right now and you need more time to think about it and when your comfortable with it.hopefully he understands and it works out for you
2006-09-19 17:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by flyinghigh006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just tell him exactly what you just said. thats something that hes going to have to understand is going to take time
2006-09-19 17:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by collegegyrl06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him face to face like you've just done here..count to three, breathe deeply and let it come out. but be sensitive, don't judge him.
2006-09-19 19:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋