I am 18 and a freshmen in college. I just found out on monday that i am pregnant by someone that i love. He wants to have this baby but i dont know how we are going to work this out. I go to school an hour away from my home town so my mother said she would keep the baby for me and i could go to school during the week and come home on the weekend. My school also has a daycare and a program for students that have children. So my real question is should i keep the baby with me up at my school or should i let my mother keep my baby during the week while i continue my education?
2006-09-19 10:32:50 · 8 answers · asked by excited but scared 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I believe your baby should be with you. Do you really want to be a "weekend mom"? It is nice for your mom to help but it is your responsiblity. Not to mention it will be your mom bonding with your baby and not you. You mentioned the father wants the baby, well why can't he help you raise it? Or does he want to be a weekend dad too? This is why they have programs and daycares in schools available.
2006-09-19 10:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant during my senior year in high school, and what I did was double my college course load during the summer while I was pregnant. Then I switched to distance learning. It's like internet classes, some community colleges offer them. As she got older, she needed more attention, so right now I'm taking a semester off to introduce her to daycare, and prepare myself to return to school. But now to give you my opinion on your question, day care is a good idea, if you can afford it. It's not cheap. And leaving baby with "grandma" is is a good idea, if you're prepared to handle the consequences. Sometimes, and I'm not saying this is the case with your mom, the "grandma" will try to parent your child, and you, taking the mommy role away from you. They can't help it, they're moms too, but what they don't realize and comprehend is that you are also a mom. I hope my answer can help you in come way. Congrats, and good luck.
2006-09-19 11:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I was a single dad of 2 young kids while I was in college, and it ain't easy. Could you live with your mom and commute daily? An hour drive isn't so bad, and this way you get to 1) be with your baby daily, which IMHO takes precedence over everything else, and also 2) have your child cared for during the day and in a "home" environment at night.
2006-09-19 10:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying the program at school and see how it works out for you, and then if it doesn't work you can have your mom watch the baby. It is important for the first 3-6 months of the baby's life to be as close to their moms as possible.
2006-09-19 10:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would use the resources available to you at the school. It is important during the first months to develop the bond between mother and child.
Where will your boyfriend be during this time? He should be there to help as well.
2006-09-19 10:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by dabean003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'ma tell you right now, you will not want to be away from your baby longer than five minutes. You might have to transfer colleges to some where closer to home.
2006-09-19 10:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Student20 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,if i was you i would either let my mother baby-sit it or go to a day-care but probably just my mother for now because it will be so tiny and get sick easier than a normal toddler kid...i would probably take it to day-care when he/she gets a bit easier...well,that is all i have to say so ok...good-bye
2006-09-19 10:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by gurly_gurl230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep your baby with you because they will get confused as to who mommy is and who is grandma. I was only 15 when I had my first kid and it caused alot of problems.
2006-09-19 10:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by johnvarelman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋