hes actually going over to his mates to play the playstation....
weve been together nearly 3 years and are very much in love, we were due to go out and celebrate my bday this weekend but he said he was skint, which is fair enough. I cancelled a night out with my friends knowing he couldnt make it and we agreed to all go out together at the end of the month (his birthday is on the 28th Sept so a joint birthday thing).
Then Yesterday he told me he was going round his friends to play playstation on my birthday.
I kept quiet and didnt say anything.I thought he was just having me on, that he was secretly planning something for me. However today i asked him again and he was serious. He doesnt see it as a problem, and is still going round their tomorrow night.
Broke my heart that ive gone to all the trouble of cancelling out everyones plans for me just for him,breaks my heart even more because he doesnt see anything wrong with it. Im so upset, am i right to be? I wont see him at all..
2006-09-19 10:30:01 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him how you feel and then go party.
2006-09-19 10:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl!!
You have a terrible boyfriend. Are you sure hes not hiding something up his sleeve? Ok, I think I have to take back the comment about him being terrible, but still he shouldn't do that. Maybe hes really depressed about having no money, guys are like that, maybe he knows he can't buy you anything and so he thinks you will hate him and so hes trying to avoid you. He probably feels like he is inadequate for you. I know and you know that he doesn't need money to do something special for you, but hes a man, its hard enough for him to buy something even if he had all the money in the world, they just don't get it, so forgive him for that.
But you'll have to talk to him directly and openly and tell him that you would really appreciate it if he could spend the day with you tomorrow, nothing special, just the 2 of you together (in his mind this is do-able), don't expect anything from him, because it will only leave you disappointed and you will end up arguing on your birthday, which isn't at all nice, if he sees how good you're being about it all, he'll have more confidence to something to make it a bit more special. So ask him gently and calmly. I wish you a very happy birthday for tomorrow. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-19 10:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by lakmii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah honey stupid stupid man that he is, i was in what i thought at the time was a normal relationship, we moved in together real quick and family members from both sides got on very well all was what SOME!!! call ideal, far from it if it was my daughters birthday he would cause such a scene just to take attention away from her, now in conclusion you look at it from another angle and realise his mental age it should give clarity. He is whats called A SELF OBSESSED SPOILT CHILD and thinking about it would you take a child who behaved badly out to a resturant full of adults?? No what if he wanted the icecream with sprinkles would he leave and go find the nearest thomas the tank ride and sulk?? what a strange boy let him go sit with his mates you go enjoy yourself with people on your level clearly he isn't you might not see that yet but as time rolls on and the situations go from nites with mates and playstations to holidays some rainy part of england when you want beach beach and the odd look around you'll think WHY. failing that this happens i'm sure your friends would sort something my friends usually organise stuff as a backup plan we like to call it THE USELESS SENSELESS FOOL DIDN'T COME THROUGH PLAN.usually involves finding or should i say coincidently bumping into said fool and harassing him for an hour leaving him looking ashamed in front of friends while you treacle then go out and AVE IT LARGE with ur girlys/normal male friends (these are very few and far between congrats if any woman finds one that doesn't declare "i love you") and get happy whatever you do. dont let geek boy mess ur day up just ask him to be a good boy and not to play for to long on the ps as it hinders sexual performance and say he really doesn't need that to happen as you do that wink,smirk get your coat and leave..... hee hee if only i had thought of that before would've sorted out loads of my probs lol x HAPPY BIRTHDAYx
2006-09-19 11:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by C HAR 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a selfish git! Phone your friends up and arrange a girls night out, just because he's skint doesn't mean you have to stay in does it?
Men are generally selfish t.w.a.t.s but when it comes to your birthday he should be spending it with you, tell him how you feel and if he cant change his plans for your day which is only once a year after all, get out and enjoy yourself and from now on do more things that don't involve him,he'll soon see what he's missing.
Anyway I hope for your sake he's kidding,surely no ones that ignorant? and if he really is serious do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who would prefer to play on kids games than spend time with you ?
Good luck and happy birthday xxx
2006-09-19 10:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by lollipop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to say at 28, I am slightly worried your birthday still holds that much emphasis to you. I don't expect anyone to do anything for my birthday. You know, he MAY still be having you on. He may want to totally surprise you, and if he doesn't...well, it's just a birthday. I'd be more worried if it was your "anniversary" and he wasn't going to spend the day with you or time with you. Sadly, guys DO love their mates. That's just how they are. Also, he probably thinks that the joint birthday will be a time to spend together and celebrate. I would really not try to take it to heart. If you know he loves you, don't be too upset about not spending a birthday together. And if you are that worried, make a note not to be with him on his birthday next year! I know I shouldn't condone revenge, but if you are that bothered by him not being there for you....
2006-09-19 10:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by lozzy1970 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He rather play playstation on your birthday?? He can play that any day any time. your birthday only comes once a year. You need to express your concern with him and if he sees nothing wrong with it, not sure what to say. It is your day, and yes you ahve to right to be upset. You need to talk to him about how that makes you feel and why is he doing that? Maybe you need to go have fun and forget all about him and make him wonder what you are doing. He knows you cancelled plans, so let him figure out that you dont' need him to have a good birthday and it'll drive him nuts.
2006-09-19 10:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey,get rid. Nobody who cares about you would be so heartless and insensitive. If he loved you,he'd find a way to make your birthday special without money. A though is always free-even if he chose to just spend the day with you,to wake you with breakfast,run you a bath and watch your fav movies or go to the park....whatever it is you like to do.
He doesn't deserve you and you'll find a man that does.
Feel for you sweetie....don't let him break you.
2006-09-19 10:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by pinkandloopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be upset. That is so hurtful of him. He would have to be an idiot to not realize hes supposed to be with you on your birthday, even you are not going out anywhere special until the end of the month
2006-09-19 10:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that's out of order, not having a pressie is nearly acceptable, as money can be tight with everyone, but he could very easy make you feel special on your birthday day!!!
The fact he doesn't even think you'd like to see him on your birthday, that shows either you've played it down or he doesn't think.
2006-09-19 10:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if he really hasnt got a surprise planned then he isnt worth your time.. but if he has - he cant tell you anyway soo you shouldnt be too worried until you know one way or the other... wait until the night is here and then see...
I really dont think your bf would be that insensitive on your birthday..
2006-09-19 10:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being upset, but you should talk to him about it. Tell him about the plans you cancelled to be with him. If you are both as in love as you say you are, he will cancel his plans to play games so that he can spend time with you.
2006-09-19 10:35:24 · answer #11 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋