My husband told me that he wants me 100% in foreplay, but tells me that legs, arms, neck, and head only count as a little. I get that the most important thing that he is getting at is the mid section, but he could not just come out and say that or admitt that, why not? Why can't he just say, yes the most important thing to me is your breasts, belly and lower region? Why do men have a hard time saying it, when that's all your thinking anyway?
2006-09-19 10:16:41 · 10 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To me its what we don't see that we want and I don't have a problem saying this, Your hubby may have or it may be you asking him all these questions. Try offering your leg to him when your in the intimate mode. Good luck.
2006-09-19 10:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you understand the complex mammal known as "Man," but you are far from displaying even an elementary understanding.
1. Never ask "Why?" of a man; quite frankly, we don't know.
2. Men don't use the terms "breasts," "belly" and "lower region." We have alternate, secret terms.
3. "...all your thinking..."? It's "you're," a contraction. Poor grammar is SUCH a turn-off.
2006-09-19 17:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Men are aroused generally and specifically. General is form and shape. Specifically, is erotic zones. As we become aroused, the more give and take in the erogenous zones, the more focused we will become.
2. It sounds like your guy may not be that inspired, erotically speaking. Educate him. Some guys lack imagination. You may have to help him. One session...concentrate on feet. The next, necks....make it fun.
3. Enlightened lovers make love to the brain first...the body is just a palette to paint with, an orchestra with which to compose a magnum opus!
Blessings-
2006-09-19 17:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most likely doesn;t want to hurt your feelings or make you feel obectified (spelled right??). It's kind of hard to explain, but as soon as you can get him to open up to what he really wants and get him acting it out, then your intamacy will grow 100 full. We all want the good girl but want her to be as bad as possible in the bedroom but do not make it easy for you because we do this stupid crap that your husband is doing. Take the lead and just tell him that you know that is what he wants and then dive right in..he;ll love it and so will you.
2006-09-19 17:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by ????????????????? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are notoriously bad when it comes to communication. It's something you and your husband are going to have to work on until you can both be honest with each other.
You have to remember too that some guys feel like their wives should not need to ask these questions. Husbands like to think "were married ,you ought to know these things already"
2006-09-19 19:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people don't want to come off as being sex pigs--"yea, baby I just want your boobs & crotch." It's natural that those parts are what drives arousel, and that arousel is very powerful. But given the sight of the erogenous areas causes arousel, it doesn't mean that we just want only those things. It's the icing on the cake, but most people want the cake, icing and all.
2006-09-19 17:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Scott E 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Geez...you again, your obsessing honey give it a rest. Is this really that important?
2006-09-19 17:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What?...the butcher-chart lady again? Give it up sweetie. Why is this such an obsession?
2006-09-19 17:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess pride. guys have a hard time opening up and telling their true feelings and thoughts. i guess that is b/c we think that you are going to laugh at us or think different.
2006-09-19 17:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cause it is man's law.
2006-09-19 17:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋