We have 2 smaller dogs (pugs) and my wife has made it quite clear that she wants a labradoodle. Sh works long hours, we are trying to have kids, and I don't think we can devote the necesary time. I have brought up these points but it does not matter to her. I do all the houshold chores and I think it will all come back on me in the end. Not to mention the additional financial hardship a third dog would create. What to do?
2006-09-19 10:01:16 · 12 answers · asked by mart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to be firm with her and explain to her exactly what you have just explained on this site. Marriage is a partnership and if you allow her to make all the decisions, it will effect your marriage. Be strong and firm but show love with it. Every relationship needs boundaries and you need to remind your wife that you also exsist in the partnership and your opinion matters too. If you don't get it off your chest then it will build up inside of you and will cause tension in the house.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 10:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by scooby doo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get the 3rd dog. I have 2, and they are both barking right now, so I know what you mean.
Does she want a labradoodle just because they are cute? Getting a dog because of its looks is almost as shallow as dating someone for their looks. Is she not attached to the dogs you have now? Are you attached to both your dogs?
If someone else would be a good parent to one of your dogs, you could give it away and make the labradoodle your 2nd dog.
Otherwise, your wife needs to improve her relationship with the dogs you already have.
Do you have any single male friends who like doing household chores, by the way :)
Someone mentioned getting a cat. I like that idea. I used to have 2 dogs and 2 cats, and it worked out well. Talk to your wife about it.
FP, if you are with a woman who will "make you pay", you need a new woman...
2006-09-19 10:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable of you to not want to get a third dog. But it may be difficult to convince your wife of the reasonableness of your position. I feel for you, my fiancé has a dog that he never walks and never spends time with because he's so busy, we also have a ton of other animals, but the dog is the most needy - I've tried to convince him to find a better home for this dog; he says he "likes the dog", yet he pays virtually no attention to it. I resigned to co-existing with a desperate, attention-starved dog, there's nothing I can do to change my fiancé's mind, and I don't have neither time nor desire to take over the dog care myself. So, the issue is being ignored for now. Good luck with your dilemma.
P.S. Pugs are the most adorable little dogs, I love them.
2006-09-19 10:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you do the kinfolk contributors chores, you should have the right to refuse to get yet another canines. tell her that it will be unfair to the canines, especially once you've somewhat one. It appears like you 2 ought to apply some marriage counseling. It doesn't seem that she is doing her justifiable share and that receives worse once you've a toddler. There are alot of issues that opt to be ironed out. i'd stay agency on the no canines concern. Ask her for a 2d decision and be prepared for anger, crying, pouting and/or the silent remedy. you've spoiled your spouse.
2016-10-16 01:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a kid NOW. She willl be soo busy she will not think aboput the dog anymore!
Side note: she sounds kind of selfish here, you sure you WANT to have a family (kids an all) with her. Are you sure the marriage is even good for you. She should be more open to your suggestions. Good luck!
2006-09-19 10:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by ladida 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get her something else. We can't all have everything that we want. If getting her a dog will make her happy but cause problems for you down the line, then don't do it. Sounds like that is already how you are feeling anyway.
2006-09-19 10:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have your priorities in order, and she doesn't.
If she whines and complains "You dont love me" because you didn't give her a dog, you need to rethink whether you want to be married to this woman.
Does she want kids and a happy marriage, or a dog?
I think you're in the right, here.
2006-09-19 10:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breed your pugs and see how much extra work that can be, maybe that will give her insentive to not want the extra dog..
Or u could just say, dog or kid u choose?
2006-09-19 10:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit her down and talk this out. If she isn't home to supervise the animals the responsibility will fall to you. Talk fast!!!
2006-09-19 10:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her diamonds that would shut her up about tha dog
2006-09-19 10:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋