about a week ago i had to break up with my bf of 4months because he was confused about his feelings for me. we both were very happy and he was the only guy ive ever dated that didnt want to "get in my pants" now i feel an empty space were happyness used to be. i see him every now and then and want to go over and talk to him but i dont want to seem desperate. im still in love with him and i dont know how he feels. i want to call him, i want to send him and IM and tell him how i feel but i dont want to cause drama. i love him, i want to tell him, but i feel like some part of him still loves me, but, oh, i dont know. i want to make the pain go away but i want him back so bad, please help me. (and i know i sound like a blubbering idiot but all of you have gone through this)
2006-09-19 09:55:42 · 12 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok... so he was confused? and you broke up with him.... because he was confused...
Ummmm, If you cared about him (and it sounds like you did and still do) reach out to him and let him know you still care. You're both human beings and he may have been (or is still) dealing with some isuess that have nothiing to do with you.
Seems like you threw the baby out with the bath water. The fact that you are mature enough to know this guy was special and he wasn't all about "getting into your pants" and you have grown enough to know that's not cool or important suggests that you found some one who's a keeper and that you value yourself enough to know you can just chill in that area with him and he respects that.
Be patient, communicate with him and see if he'll open up and tell you what he's so afraid of and why. Stop worrying about if you "look desperate", you do however, need to be humble about the situation.... because after all "YOU" did break up with him.
Hopefully he'll understand enough to trust you again and you'll both be there for each other, starting as friends and hopefully with time become much more... (like maybe one day marriage). Work it out!
2006-09-19 10:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by 247 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with telling him how you feel, but if you want the pain to go away, or if you want him back, the best thing you can do is give him space. The pain will not easily go away at first, but it gets easier over time. One mistake people make is that they feel they have to "fight" for the one they love, but smothering him would only make him distance himself from you. It only works in the movies.
I've been there before. It took me 6 months to completely get over my first love, but then I met someone that made me forget all about that person. My advice is to tell the person how you feel, then tell him that you will be there if he needs you.
2006-09-19 17:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by pinomic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has only been a week since the two of you broke up and it is perfectly normal to miss him and to be sad. It is ok to cry, it is ok to cry to your friends. You lost something that you loved. But you have to accept it for what it is, and understand that you will feel better in time, this is a part of love. Spend as much time as you can with your friends. Stay busy, busy, busy. Even if you feel to down to do anything, make yourself get up and get out of the house. Give yourself time to heal from your broken heart.
2006-09-19 17:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was feeling the same way about u 2! Guys tend to get scared off when true feelings set in. Maybe he talked to someone about it and they said u are way to young to be with only one girl. Maybe u should be dating around more, with guys its an ego thing and they don't want other guys to know that they can have feelings!
Peer pressure, it's a drag!!!!!!!!
2006-09-19 17:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that is. It really sucks. Fortunately, you haven't dated for too long. It's good that you had a guy who respected you physically (they are hard to find). My advice is to let him go. If really wants you back, he will contact you. If you keep on contacting him, it won't allow him to work through his confusion and it might push him away. It seems like he cares about you so wait for him.
2006-09-19 17:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, why did you break up to begin with? It must have been bad enough. Just remind yourself of why you broke up and why you need to stay away. Just b/c he did not want to get into your pants (right away) does not mean he is "the one" for you. Take some time to yourself to think things over.
2006-09-19 16:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by ladida 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since he is confused about his feelings for you then let him think on his own about them.Give him space and time to think. You will be upsetting him and making it worse by contacting him. you are not a blubbering idiot you seem mature with your reason for leaving him.and you haven't bothered him since. let him decide and he will tell you.
2006-09-19 17:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell your feeling to him and relax why not taking a walk and find a good way to do, you still love him right , so quickly tell him how you feel.
2006-09-19 17:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by kaku j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him back tell him, otherwise find some one else.
2006-09-19 16:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send me a email and tell him how u feel bout him and yalls hould have sex and then see wat happens from there and then talk 2 each other bout yall feelings.
2006-09-19 17:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋