My friend just told me she cheated on her husband- should I tell?

Question

My most hated thing in the world is a cheater. I have been cheated on by almost every boyfriend and dumped them all. I am now married to someone faithful. My friend just told me that she cheated on her husband last weekend with a stranger- do you think I should tell her husband? I really want to since this is my ultra pet peeve and I would pray someone would tell me if my spouse cheated. Everyone has the right to know ...right?

Answer 1

Please think twice before interfering with someone elses private life! she tis your friend and trusted you when she told you about it. just because YOU would like to know if your hubby cheated on you doesn't neccessarily mean that you should tell her husband... you would cause big trouble and loos a friend forever

Answer 2

While everyone has the right to know, some people are happy in their ignorance. I would say STAY OUT OF IT. It isn't your business. But it really depends on who your loyalty is to..her or her husband? Who are you better friends with? Do you think your friend will cheat again? Maybe it was a bad judgment call on her part that she deeply regrets. Perhaps you could inform her husband...only after she's cheated again.

Are you ready to handle the consequences of causing unhappiness in a marriage that could lead to a broken home? I understand how you feel...I would be really tempted to tell on her too but there are a lot of consequences you have to think about before you do it for your own gratification.

Personally, I'd tell her that cheaters are your biggest peeves and you hate cheaters. If she plans on being one, she can no longer be your friend.

Answer 3

First of all if she is a friend she knows what your ultra pet peeve is. Did you even question why did she told you of all people knowing how you feel about cheating ? This has to be a big issue that she is dealing with and she told you as a friend. Your first thought shouldnt have been should I tell her husband but how can I help my friend. Being a friend I would have told her how it hurt to find out someone is cheating. Everyone has a right to know but you dont have to be the one to tell them right?

Answer 4

Yes -- do the right thing and tell the man because even though you are not part of it, he has the right to know. Like you said-- if you were cheated on and someone knew about it , you would like to know the truth. Sometimes it is best that you tell people that you are friends with and who you are close to because it shows that you care and also it shows that you want it to stop. Cheating IS wrong and monogamy is rare. Better to tell the man now before he gets a sexually transmitted disease from his wife. Sometimes people pass diseases on from infidelity. Stop this before it's too late! You know it's morally wrong.

Answer 5

I completly understand u hate as do I but ur friend obviousley confided in u and If u say something 2 her husband and that breaks them up is it really worth losing a friend over this stay out of it if it's ment 2 come out it will

Answer 6

i think you should convince this person to come clean with her spouse. I have been cheated on before too. What hurt the most was hearing it from someone else. You could tell him, but chances are he will feel very humiliated and hurt. she is not worthy of your friendship. screw her. you don't need to be around people like that. Its up to you. Hope this helps a bit!

Answer 7

Exactly who's friend are you? She told you in confidence! if you despise her actions so much then you need to end the friendship between the two of you and make sure she knows why. Unless you have some underlying reason to interfere in her marriage then you need to keep it as it was given a confidential discussion w/ a friend!

Answer 8

If you want to lose your friend by all means tell her husband. If not and if you don't want to get in the middle of it I suggest you mind your own business. I have told folks in the past about their partners wayward ways and it got me in nothing but trouble. I not only lost a friend but many more who heard that I had said something. Let him find out for himself in his own way. Besides it's not hurting you. Just don't talk to your friend anymore if you don't like the way she is handeling her partner, but be sure to tell her why you are not talking to her.

Answer 9

What would you gain from telling? Most likely you would lose your friend. She apparently has some faith and trust in you and was looking for some help with her guilt. You can tell if you must, but be prepared for the backlash. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 10

You should not tell her husband; that is for her to do if and when she thinks the time is right. Also if she wants the marriage to last, she should break off the affair.