If my spouse sneeks to watch porno's does that mean he no longer loves me.He knows it bother's me.
2006-09-19 09:46:55 · 15 answers · asked by specialangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, it doesn't mean that at all.
It may mean that he's not getting everything he wants from you. Only you can judge why this might be.
Or it could be that he just thinks that's what guys are supposed to do, as stupid as that may be.
There's a movie called "Kissing Jessica Stein". In it, Jessica's significant other is breaking up with her. "But I love you!" Jessica wailed. "I know, but I want to be with someone who wants to rip my clothes off." I think that's what most people want.
Do you want to rip his clothes off? Does he know this? Do you do so from time to time?
You aren't necessarily doing anything wrong. You shouldn't feel like I'm casting blame for his interest in porn. I'm trying to give you ideas to think about to decide how you might combat this.
I suspect it won't matter what you do. Until he grows up, he's going to watch porn. But maybe if you spice up your love life with him, you'll keep his libido in check.
And with any luck, have a lot of fun at the same time.
Fair or not, a lot of guys don't have any self control over their libido. It may be up to you to offer sufficient distraction. As I said, fair or not. The only things you really control are your own actions. You can't make him change unless he wants to.
So make him want to.
2006-09-19 10:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him watching porn has nothing todo with how he feels about you or your relationship. Men and women ARE wired differently and we are just getting 'kicks' from an image.
What is the issue is your partner is (unsuccessfully) trying to hide it from you. This does need to be addressed by both of you without accusations or anger - he is not doing anything wrong and you are right to express your feelings.
My partner is aware that I sometimes watch video clips or pictures and is fine because I don't hide it from her. We have made it part of our lovelife which we both find stimulating - perhaps your partner feels equally as bad as you because he is excluding you from a part of his life?
2006-09-19 18:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You need to let it go. The only time it's a problem is if it takes over his life. Any other time, why do you even care?
2006-09-19 16:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, porno does not mean he no longer loves you. It means he's a horny effer. You should be taking advantage of this.
2006-09-19 16:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by pinomic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. It's better he watches porn than cheats on you. Stop letting it bother you. Try making some porn yourself.
2006-09-19 16:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you don't tolerate him watching them at home. Consider changing your views on that material if you want him staying at home.
2006-09-19 16:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be sneaking around to watch it. But, no, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It just something that turns him on.
2006-09-19 16:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL NO ITS JUST THAT GUYS LIKE WATCHING THAT **** GIRL MY MAN BE DOING THE SAME THING BUT IT DONT RELAY BUG ME BECAUSE HES WITH ME ITS NOT LIKE HES WITH ONE OF THEM PORN GIRLS HE CANT EVEN TOUCH THEM ALL HE CAN DO IS WATCH THEM YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT TELL HIM THAT YOU DONT LIKE IT OR AND IF HE DONT STOP THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD WATCH ONE WITH HIM AND SEE WHY HE LIKES IT SO MUCH
2006-09-19 16:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by mrs.sl33py 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt mean that.he is just a man.my partner does sometimes and he knows i know, but i never made big deal , so he stop doing that for a while.Its normal.at lest you know hes not gay:)
2006-09-19 16:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by natasha w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST LEAVE HIM be, why is it his problem, what you feel,do you care he likes looking at other woman,in your home not at a club or bar..........why is it men must do what the wife, wants, and likes or don't like.....me me me me me me, he sneaks because of the way you ACT..........
2006-09-19 16:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋