I left a 5 yr relationship with the father of my 3yr old, I always felt he was cheating and not faithful, yet he seemed to blame me as if I made things up and did not admit to him being wrong. Not coming home and suspeccting sexual relationships when he would drink, well I moved out a month ago and stopped by one morning to pick up my baby's shoes find out he has someone else there ( he never let me in, but i waited and saw another woman leave with him) I had my daughter so I did not want drama. He claims he had guy friends over and she was with them. I went back after they left and saw book with her Driver's licence and #, I called to get ansers and she states it's nothing serious but this was not her first time their, he still denies having anything to do with her.... why does it still hurt knowing that I always suspected but never caught him and now that I'm gone he still can't admit it?How can I get over this jerk but yet keep my daughter in mind.
2006-09-19 09:41:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The way to get over this jerk is to constantly think about the 5 yrs of torture you put up with. Why make it worse for yourself by sitting there to see them both come out ? He is a liar and a cheat and your so much better off without him. Look at that new women as his next victim because that's what she is. She is just beginning her road down to hell that your coming up from. If you look at it this way it will be easier to put this behind you. He wont ever change. The longer you waste your time on him the more likely you will miss the right guy when he comes by.
2006-09-19 09:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, why should it be a problem that he's seeing other people after you moved out? He's a jerk to have lied to you throughout the relationship, no doubt about that; but now that you're not there it doesn't make him any more of a jerk to want to see other women. It really does suck that he treated you like this... But hard as it may be, try to concentrate on the future, not the past. Your future without him has a potential of being very happy and good. It gets better with time, the pain will go away, and you will find happiness again. He will go his own way, and will make many more women miserable - but it should not be your concern. Good luck.
2006-09-19 17:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has made u not see that u are important , ur self esteem needs a boost . My ex husband moved out of my house on a frieday and my two kids met his girlfriend on saturday. All i could do was accept that this was the way he is and let him know i was aware of the sitation and put up a few rules. My children are not to sleep in the same bed with "her" as he only has two bedrooms and my son sleeps with him primarily when there things like that. I explained to my kids only when they asked questions. Will she be our new mommy ? Hell no !!!!! i am ur only mommy > she is daddys friend and i expect them to treat her with the same respect she gives them . which all seems to work just fine . But my dear it is time for u to get out there and enjoy life and stop worrying about what he is doing. It takes time but ur heart will heal . and u will find a man that makes u very happy and can be a part of u and ur childs life . Live again
2006-09-19 16:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~~*Brownie*~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off set a great example for your daughter and ditch his a**. He had a good thing going and had to ruin it with lies and pursuing other people. He is so not worth your time. Focus on your daughter and raising her to be a strong woman.
My Grandmother explains it this way: Women are more emotional people, Men think with their penis.
2006-09-19 17:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by TinaSmiley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do take your child into consideration and thats a really good thing. I dont know why people lie so much, even after they've been busted too. Who knows? It hurts for many reasons and we are all different. Stay strong and ***always stay True to Yourself! And *always continue to be a good example to that little girl! Many Blessings to you and the little one.
2006-09-19 16:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This too shall pass. All things whether good or bad pass with time. He probably was cheating on you, but you can forget getting him to admit it. It's harder for us women to move on because we're more emotionally attached to people then men are. We form emotional bonds way more strongly then men do...some believe it's hardwired in our brains and is essential to our survival.We govern our lives with our hearts and minds, they use their penis.
2006-09-19 16:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Raven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone lies, women included. It's just that some people lie worse than others. The rest, I can't answer you on. Only time will heal all wounds.
2006-09-19 16:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the JERK get to you,he will see in time that your the one that was right for him,his daughter should be on his mind and it will later on.
go on with your life and let things build up for court,your got him right where you want him.
write down all the times you have seem him with her,like dates and times and so on.....
and then take it to your lawyer and get him for every thing he has and more.
2006-09-19 16:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are like the thousands of other girls who spread your legs for some jerk and get pregnant. You broke up with him so it is none of your business what he does or who he is with, sweetie. If you really want a decent life than you need to clean up your act and stop acting like a ho. Before you point the finger at him.....look at your own behavior....you leave a lot to be desired!
2006-09-19 16:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is hard to find out the man you loved was screw off and a lire and a cheat,you need to thank God you left his sorry *** ,as for the baby don't bad mouth her daddy ever because she will find out about him in her own time
good luck
2006-09-19 16:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋