why do men come home after cheating & do reverse psycology why cheat, then act like were the hoe?

Question

me & my babies dad have been 2gather 4 years ,yes once a cheater always a cheater but how i realized he was cheating again was the fact he always comes home & acts more jealous of me accusing me of cheating and its next 2 impossible two tots & preg w/ twins (yes im a big fool ) poster girl for ignorant women w/ low self essteem ! he doesnt know yet, but im out I
will not subject myself to his animalistic self while trying 2 be a mother 2 our childeren my kids need me not the "postergirl" back 2 question why r men cheaters and cruel when they do come home?

Answer 1

Well, that was the long way around, wasn't it???? What is a "hoe"?... I'm guessing you mean Whore...it would help that if you are going to use this site, that you write it in English so we are not all trying to guess what you are asking. Re-read your question before pushing the "submit" button.

Why do men cheat? Because their fathers did, because their mothers did, because they were raised in a home where it was acceptable, even expected, because they came from homes where there was no pride nor discipline, because they were never part of a real family, because they never had a man in their life as a father figure....they were raised by a single mother who was overwhelmed..... And they find women who will put up with it, and repeat the history -- they find women who also came from broken homes, whose fathers also cheated on their mothers, and had children out of a loving marriage. They find women who want to be loved, and mistake sex for love..... And these same women think that the guy will bond to them if they have a child. You know better, don't you???

When each partner to a marriage/relationship has only these situations after which to pattern their life, it is normal. Men are sorta designed to stick around until the kid is about 4....evolution made them that way. By the time a child is 4, he can be pretty independent. So, the father seeks another female to impregnate. Those males who carried this promiscous gene had the most children, and we are all the heirs of those men. It's all in the genes, and in their environment. The problem is that in the modern world, it really doesn't work too well anymore -- respectable people with good jobs can't have lots of children -- costs too much. And it takes money to raise a child, but also money to have nice things -- usually the money goes to the kid. There are generations of people who have been raised in the welfare system -- young girls will say to their single moms that "When I'm old enough, (13) I'll have my own baby, and get my own apartment and get my own welfare check...." And so another generation of children are raised by a single mom....

(It's against the law to put a child out which is what primitive man did when the resources to raise a child were not available -- the child was deserted and left to be eaten by what ever came by.)

We are products of both our environment and our evolution. Men were designed to be promiscuous. (But many men are not....they get an education, marry nice women have one or two children that they can afford, stay faithful, take pride in their home... etc., Where do you find these kinds of guys? Usually in college, in well-paying jobs, in nice neighborhoods, and men who have decided that they are not going to produce children, and be like their fathers. They are rarer than the other type.) The interesting thing is that why aren't all of them sleeping with a different woman every 4 years???? If you wanted to hear that they are all lousy rats, sorry.... it takes two...the women who are sleeping with these guys have bought into this system as well....

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Answer 2

That is a good questions, this could be several things. This man could have a history of cheating because he himself is insecure or afraid of committment. He may have some issues that he has never talked to you about. When you asked about him being cruel when he comes home, well he is mad at himself and taking it out on you. Don't allow yourself to be treated badly, if he does not want to be a man and step down if he can't be honest and faithful to you then move on. You can go to my website and I'm sure you will find something that can help you with this issue. It was designed just for women and their relationships. the address is below.

Answer 3

MIne did exactley this with my best friend. In fact both made me feel like I was going round the twist for thinking he was having an affair but then I found out it was with her! I will never forgive either of them for how they made me feel or what they have put me through since. You ahve to get rid of this guy- yes I know you have kids with him but beleive me you will be better off without him. You don't need all the stress of trying to make a relationship with a cheat. He will never change. He may say he will be believe nothing but yourself and your own instincts. Please do not stay with a guy who treats you like dirt - things are not going to change - you have to move on.
Good luck from one who has

Answer 4

The do the reverse psychology because they have a guilty conscious. And they think if they are cheating, then you must be cheating to.

Answer 5

I think that's a pretty gross over-generalization. Not all men act this way.

Answer 6

They ALL do that!! When they are guilty of anything they always act even meaner, I know!!! Most are just stupid and don't know how else to act!! You deserve far better than that!!

Answer 7

Because he is transferring his guilt on to u, to lessen the burden of it.

Answer 8

because the best defense is a good offense

Answer 9

they just do........they are pigs......my ex did the exactly same thing. I guess they are trying to blame us for their own stupidity.
Put your foot down, don't let him run you over....it would get worse.

Answer 10

Have you ever heard have there cake and eat it too.Duh