I have a severe anxiety disorder and today is my 40th birthday. My family and friends, knowing I have a difficult time leaving the house and being around people, have a planned some sort of event outside my home. I don't want to let them down but, dang, I don't want to go either. What would you do?
2006-09-19 09:28:11 · 8 answers · asked by dodgecitykitty1966 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What terrific answers so far! Thank you very much. I know this anxiety has held me back on so many things so I have sought counseling and medication. I can force myself to leave the house sometimes but I'm not ever gone for very long.
I have asked them to have it in my home but they refuse. I know they think they are helping by trying to force the issue but my jaw is clenched and my shoulders are so tight I'm getting a headache.
I've been trying to meditate all day and I'm not having much luck. Any suggestions please?
2006-09-19 09:56:36 · update #1
Awww. I do believe that social anxiety disorder can be treated..why dont you seek counciling? They also have medicine for anxiety too. So why not step out of your comfort zone for just one moment and do that for yourself? Dont live that way if you're unhappy.
You have to ask yourself: Am I happy feeling this way? If the answer is no, then please go seek help for yourself. :) The only way to overcome a fear is to face it..over and over and over untill it is defeated.
I know it's hard, believe me. I'm not just preaching to ya. I have SEVERE stage fright, and I'm still battling my anxiety over the stage, so you're not alone. It's really frustrating, because it really holds me back sometimes. At school, my stage fright hurts me grades becase I'd rather take a 0 than get infront of others. I dont know why I feel that way, but I just do..
Keep trying..and one day when you have the courage to go out and so something to make you a better person, go for it! :D
So, if you're tired of living in anxiety, let going out to that party be your first step to the new you! Go to the party, tell your family about how you feel and you still came, then go get help for your problems. Good luck! :P
2006-09-19 09:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Mizzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you seeking help for this disorder? It is not an untreatable condition, and (as the responder before me mentioned) there *are* medications on the market to help alleviate the symptoms of Social Anxiety Disorder.
Whether or not you choose to go to your birthday celebration, make sure that you're receiving qualified help for your ailment.
...oh yes, and happy birthday!
2006-09-19 09:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of yourself as a person with a debilitating illness. I can imagine its hard but just do it. Dare to Fail ... Give this whole getting a job thing a go, Give it a proper try. How do you know your not able for it if you've never tried. If you start off on invalidity benefit you will most likely be on it for a long long time. You're still young just try, and if you fail TRY AGAIN!
2016-03-17 23:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am single mum. I have been suffering for panic attacks for some 15 years now, though it was not until recently I understood what they were. They were progressively getting stronger and more frequent, stopping me from some days even leaving my house. I read this book and it all made perfect sense.
I am not saying I was not terrified of putting theory to action, I was more scared of that than the next attack! But I decided to view it as a game, one I had control of and could therefore not lose!
2016-05-17 01:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one year my family went on two trips and i just stayed at home all alone for 3 days for each trip, because i felt like i wanted to get away from people and all of that, but this year i went along and just the being together thing felt so good it made me think i should have gone with them on the last two. the point is if you don't do this you can never get it out of your head, and that there's nothing you can do about it anymore. if you think you're going to be comfortable with that "what if" situatuion, don't do it, but if you think you're not, you're condition is gonna get stronger every day. just face it and you'll see how normal and simple and good it is.
2006-09-19 10:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by the_guy_with_the_thing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Social Anxiety And Shyness Cure : http://tinyurl.com/DFue6UCUJs
2015-09-25 15:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go out so you don't let them down - they are trying to do something nice for you. If it's very hard - is there some prescription medication you can take to relax? You might just have fun once you get out there.
2006-09-19 09:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and have fun. You may want to check out this site:
http://www.cureanxietydisorder.com/?utm_source=YahooAnswers&utm_medium=link%2Bpost
It has helped many people that have had panic/anxiety attacks....and the methods used don't require the use of medication!
Hope this helps you...
2006-09-19 11:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound almost agoraphobic...
I get this way too. I try to get out of as many events as I can.
Because your family loves you, see if they can settle for doing something smaller at your house instead.
Happy Birthday!
2006-09-19 09:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋