I have been married for 7 years. I love my husband as a brother not a husband. I have fallen in love with someone else that I desire and love very much. But is God eyes can I get divorced? Please help.
2006-09-19 09:19:22 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is between you and God. I will say, that I think of God as a loving parent and no parent *wants to see their children unhappy. Be prayerful & Follow your heart. Blessings to you!
2006-09-19 09:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. If there's abuse or anything similar involved, then it's clear that divorce is the best thing to do. If you simply have fallen out of love with him and in love with someone else, that's different.
Personally, I would suggest that you reevaluate the situation. Relationship patterns tend to repeat themselves. That is, whatever problems you had with your husband you will likely have with this new man as well. Given that info, sounds like trying to work things out with your husband is something you should consider.
Are you experiencing the 7-year itch? You know, when you get bored in your marriage and wonder how your life could be different and better. I've been married for the same amount of time and we've both admitted to feeling the 7-year itch. If this is the case with you, then give it some time to work through.
There will always be others that you're attracted to. We're all human beings. Is it worth throwing away 7 years of marriage to take a chance on someone else? Marriage is hard and requires constant work and compromise to maintain it.
In a Christian context, if you do end up divorced, I don't think it would be the worst thing in the world. If it frees you up to accomplish other things that are important, then maybe it could be a good thing. Just ask for his forgiveness, pray about it and you'll be fine.
2006-09-19 09:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she converted AFTER she married him she must stay with him unless he commits adultery. If she married him when she was a Christian and he was not a Christian then the marriage was a self inflicted wound as Christians are told not to be unequally yoked. The marriage presumably required her to take vows before a civil magistrate or a priest (God). But she can't just up and leave him and say God says it is okay. BUT physical abuse? THAT ought to be enough to get a separation or put a legal restraining order on him or call the cops and have him arrested. That is not divorcing him but she should not put up with being beaten up by the man.
2016-03-17 23:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love with another many while married to your husband is far from a Christian behavior. An affair of the heart is as bad as, if not more so, than a physical affair. Any marriage can end in divorce.
2006-09-19 12:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being in love with another man is grounds for divorce for your husband, not for you.
Get out your Bible and read Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and Matthew 19:4-6. I'm sure there's a lot more than that in there. I just can't think right now.
2006-09-19 09:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are alot variables that go along with that.
I think that God allows us to go through some situations because we choose to. God granted us free will and it's up to us to use it correctly. If you don't love him anymore then your covenant that you made with your husband is already broken.
IIs there something the person you loves does taht your husband doesnt... maybe he can learn. You have to change your heart and make it work. If it is still something you want to do, then like I said God did grant us free will.
The Bible says the only "lawful" reason for divorce is unfaithfulness.
Hope this helps... ( read the book of Matthew 5:32 and 19:9) make the right decision!
2006-09-19 09:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by MWD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just looking in the bible last night about marriage and what Gods take on it is. I read that the only reason you are supposed to get a divorce is for unfaithfulness. But even then you are supposed to try to forgive the other person. It said something about God having you where you are for a reason, we may not understand that reason but he does have a purpose. I would look in the bible and see what is written though and pray about it! But don't cheat!
2006-09-19 10:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a Christian can get divorced. However, if you divorce your husband just because you love another man you are in for big problems. I suggest you divorce and take a couple of years of being truly single to find your own strengths. Then seek a relationship. If you jump from one relationship to another you are just being a woman without a lot of integrity.
2006-09-19 09:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-01-28 12:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason for divorce is adultry period. That does not sound like it applies here. If you are a Christian you wouldn't be running around with someone else, you would be sitting at home enjoying the company of your husband not another man.
I'm sorry but that is the truth.
2006-09-19 09:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if I'm thinking right
the bible says that if one of you has committed against the other then your free to remarry,and if death should be a factor,but other wise i have been told you can't,
that was a long time ago and the new church says it's okay if you don't love each other,
but my question is to you,what church or faith do you belong,what does your pastor say about divorce?
ask your pastor about this and see if you can still save your marriage first ,and go from there.
heaven is greater by far all our understanding.
2006-09-19 10:00:08 · answer #11 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋