...and he said he likes both of us. I don't know what to do, she's my BFF and I don't want to get into a fight about it. Should I back off and let her have him? ONLY NICE AND HELPFUL ANSWERS
2006-09-19 08:56:26 · 18 answers · asked by iMegan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think y'all need to talk it over and see what's best for both of y'all and y'all relationship. i think if they guy can't choose just one girl then he doesn't really like y'all.if a guy is that worth it then he he must like u as much as u like him.
2006-09-19 09:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by clair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to back off or there will be hard feelings.
Both of you need to get it in your mind that friends are better than a new boyfriend. If he can handle being friends with both of you then take that route until you can figure out which one of you actually likes him and is not just " digging the new guy."
After a few weeks or months of hanging out you both may just see that he was hot but he is not for you. Give it time and space and you and your friend can still drool over him without either of you getting catty.
BUT be prepeared that one of you will probably steart seeing him and it should be ok in your mind for that to happen WITHOUT there being jealousy.
2006-09-19 09:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in a situation like this neither person should date him that's the most fair thing to do. Also he wouldn't make a good boyfriend at all cause he is full of it. How can he say that he likes both of you knowing that the two of you are friends. It sounds like he plans on getting with both of you if he can. He know good leave him alone. There are plenty other men out there for the two of you like.
2006-09-19 09:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay friends you should both back off. I predict that she will probably go for it as soon as you leave him available. That sucks. She should have backed off too. If she is a real friend she will back off. There are so many guys out there. Is he worth it to get into a fight? Stay away. This is bad news. If you go for him- he may hit on her later or vice versa. Just really bad. Stay away!
2006-09-19 09:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitive girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the woman to man ratio today, it was inevitable to happen. My friendly advice to you is to stay far away from this guy. He will cause problems for you and your friend whether you date him or she dates him. Think about it. If you date him and if he even looks at her you will be thinking in the back of your mind " I know he likes her". If he dates your friend she will also be extremely insecure about your interactions with him. At the end of the day, this guy is not worth the valuable friendship you have with your BFF, Trust me I know from experience.
2006-09-19 09:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Hes just a guy, you are best friends, that is way more important. The fact that you are willing to back off I think means that you think she has stronger feelings for him than you, then your question is answered.
No, a sexy thought would also be to share, but I am sure that would just get me yelled at by some religous person, so forget I mentioned it.
2006-09-19 09:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thing if u 2 are really bff u both should get away from the guy because this way ur friendship wont be affected in anyway.
2006-09-19 09:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mz.ChArMs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just a crush, maybe you should share him ( depending on your age of course) i used to do that with a couple of my friends. One day i got him the next time , she did. It was fair and there were no fights because we all agreed.
2006-09-19 08:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cf Precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen she is ur BFF and u don't wanna start a fight right!?!~?
so don't start and do the right thing let her hav him!
and if she is also a true friend she won't hav him either!
Good Luck
2006-09-19 09:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by pirateluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have him. If it doesn't work out between them, which, let me tell you it probably won't, or only for a couple of months, then you date him. It's not worth losing your friendship over.
2006-09-19 09:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋