I just turned 47 today and I feel awful. I'm not really old, but I'm certainly not young either. Don't know where I fit in. I am married, but hubby is all I have. My parents are dead and I have no brothers or sisters.....no family to speak of. I'm depressed. I have a new job (only been there 3 1/2 weeks now), and come to find out today, I didn't do so well yesterday on some stuff. I can't afford to lose this job either. Today just sucks. I know my hubby won't remember to get me a card, let alone plan anything. Probably if we had more money that would help I guess. But I'll have to fix dinner as usual. I just wanted today to be special and it's not. In ANY way, shape or form. Any ideas as how to NOT be so depressed ?
2006-09-19 08:48:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!!!!
And be sure to let your husband know how you're feeling instead of just saying, I'm fine. Sometimes us guys need to be hit over the head with a 2X4 before we understand. Hope the rest of your day goes better.
Here's a quote from Will Rogers
One of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it is such a nice change from being young.
2006-09-19 08:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Papa John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all.....HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!! Just to have a birthday is special enough. Do you know how many other people in the world had a birthday today but didn't get a chance to see it. Do be depressed. You can have a celebration all by yourself. Tell you what you do. You fix your hair, put on some makeup, put on a nice but comfortable out fit, fix your favorite meal, put in your favorite DVD, get a pound of chocolate and a gallon of ice cream and enjoy being a vibrant 47 year old woman who is happy to be alive. As far as the job goes, just continue to go and do your very best. You've only been there 3 weeks. You should have a 30, 60 or 90 day trial period in there some where so just go and continue to learn and do your very best. Honey, go and enjoy your birthday and celebrate your life. When your husband comes home, ask him to join you and if he says no, make him want to join you.
2006-09-19 08:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey ... I am *so* sympathizing with you. I will be turning 41 in a few weeks, and it already has me in a funk! Funny, because 40 didn't really matter at all ... but now it feels like I'm *really* in my forties.
Inexpensive cheer-me-ups: put some favorite songs on the iPod (escaping with headphones, even for just a half hour can do so much) ... walking the dog around the neighborhood and taking the time to appreciate nature ... scented candles and a nice long shower or bath.
I'm sorry your husband doesn't remember your birthday ... what a bummer. Whatever you do today, remember to give yourself a special treat or two.
And if best wishes from an online stranger help, well then: "HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!"
2006-09-19 08:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by m.allen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am sorry to hear you are so depressed. I wish you a happy birthday. I really hope you can enjoy your special day. I don't really think you will lose your job since you only been there for about 3 weeks. You are still in the learn from your mistakes phase. I hope your hubby gets you something for your birthday. I really think you should try to cheer up. Happy Birthday.
2006-09-19 08:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday! Buy yourself a present and bring home a cake! You are married, have a job, a place to live and, obviously, a computer. You're doing OK. Tomorrow, make an appointment to see your doctor. Create the birthday you want tonight. Don't say anything to your husband. But next year, tell him the week before that your birthday is coming, etc. Have fun! Blessings
2006-09-19 08:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Isabella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!!! don't let life bring you down on your birthday, lady. If your hubby don't remember what today is ... then remind him. Ask him out to an affordable restaurant, doesn't need to be fancy, it's the thought that counts right? Put a smile on your face and think of your happy place. Good luck
2006-09-19 08:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all Happy Birthday!!! =) and second of all , stop feeling so sorry for yourself...... take action and do something! If he doesnt get you a card it doesnt mean that he doesnt love you. That is just the story you are making up and believing. Anyways I hope that you will enjoy your birthday, but in the end remember that it really is just another day, but because we "say" that birthdays are supposed to be a day to be celebrated and if they are not we assume that nobody loves us, i am not trying to be pessimist , just trying to make you see how you dont have to be depressed..... much love, and God bless!
2006-09-19 08:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by **** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there ........happy birthday to you .......and you are special .....in many different ways .....i have been where you are and its not a nice place to be ..why dont you start to be nice to you ,and that doesnt need to cost anything ,how about a nice cup of tea or what ever you drink and a read through the paper ,i know you are probably thinking ....wow is that it ,no the point is that you are doing it cause you want to ,instead of rushing home why not go and have a walk on youre own for 10 15 mins after work that makes youre time and thats important to you im sorry you have lost youre parents ,i know whats that like ,why you dont you go and have a long hot soak and relax .....and start being nice to you ,if you want to stay in touch that is fine with me ....you look after youre self and take care xx
2006-09-19 08:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to give yourself a little treat of some sort. Do something you really like to do, or buy a little something just for you. Just remember, if you have your health, you have everything. I do find it kind of sad that your husband won't remember your birthday...
I am 49, and I don't really feel old (in my mind, I'm still 28).
Happy Birthday!
2006-09-19 08:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by Geronimo5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
47????
whooo hoooo, congrats....
ya know how people compare that to cats lives and dog years and such??
47 is like dead in dog's years.
so cheer up!
life is what you make it.
go grab something by the horns and go for a ride babe.
if life sucks then get a new one or develope a new one.
once your gone, you'll be thinking dayum!!!! i shudda went to new zealand, its fricken gorgeous.
or checked the fall colors on the USA's east coast.
or swam in an ocean with dolphin.
or been TOOOOOOtally in the dark in a DEEP cave.
MAN thats dark!
cheer up, it could be a LOT worse.
you could have cancer, aids, or a runny nose right now!!!!!
got milk? who cares?
got life? looks like it,
then live it to the max.
the park costs nothing
the beach costs nothing
a walk around town checking out the fall colors costs nothing.
a movie's kinda cheap.
money isnt going to help anything....
ATTITUDE will
its YOUR life.
right?
LIVE it like you wont get another one
cause guess what?
you wont get another one.
2006-09-19 08:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by seanachie60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋