What are the reasons that a man has an affair?
2006-09-19 08:40:07 · 51 answers · asked by pandora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men and women cheat for exactly the same reasons. Their emotional needs are not being met with the relationship. Instead of trying to fix the relationship, they look elsewhere for fulfillment. It's always a mistake.
2006-09-19 08:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
They are many reasons just like those that are given for a woman having an affair which are actually weak pathetic excuses really. Ask yourself, would anyone want to even have an affair if they truly love their spouse, no they wouldn't would they? Because if your love and respect of the other is so precious then nothing should be able to weaken that.
It is loss of love and respect for their partner that is THE reason, other than that everything else is just an excuse or explanation for doing so.
Why don't you just blame it on a mid life crisis, that's got to be the best joke of all and offers no real explaination for much younger men or much older men doing the same thing.
2006-09-19 11:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons are myriad. Wife not loving,sexual,attractive etc.( not excusing it, just explaining it) Feeling old, and trapped. I think mostly they do it because they are getting this respect and admiration from someone which is a powerful drug. I think alot of wives stop making their husbands feel powerful and respected. The same goes for the women who have affairs. Its basically weakness. When temptation comes along, they mostly don't have strength to back away. Then they try to justify it. Very difficult. The person they have the affair with , usually wont last in the future if they were to get married or something.
2006-09-19 08:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because generally they get away with it.Many of them are never caught and when they are they are so so sorry,it will never happen again,it was the first time bla bla bla and so very often they are forgiven and allowed back or allowed to stay with their partner.
If men knew 100% that they would be held accountable for their actions then many would go ahead anyway but a great number of them might think differently about what will happen when and not if they are caught!
The grass always seems greener on the other side of the fence but what many men and indeed women never think about is when they are on the other of the fence and looking back,the grass looks even greener!
I wish we lived in a society where everyone was held accountable for their actions but until that day men (and women) will continue to have affairs because they can !
2006-09-19 08:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do women have affairs? Women do it just like men do. Some people blame it on falling out of love, but having kids and being to scared to actually leave. Money, family/religious reasons. Some do it because they are just looking for fun/sex with nothing else attached. Some do it to feel young and alive. Who knows everyone will give their own reason. If you are wondering about someone particular ask him. He might tell you.
2006-09-19 08:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they cant keep it in their pants. Men that have affairs are such pigs - ive had two guys like that but my hubby is different - he has a child with me and he knows if does decided to have an affair in the future, he wont see us again - hes got more to loose than I have.
2006-09-19 23:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Supertwirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way.... men are like dogs and women like cats dogs are emotionally shallow animals and always want some physical assurance for love and regularly desire sexual release. it is a side effect of testosterone. women like cats are more independent and sometimes become too territorial and not let anyone in there little space so can go off sex much longer than men can as a side effect of the female hormone. so men would always seek or fantasise about having sex with multiple women. and the less sex you give him the more those other ladies who have the same urges become more appealing even though he might have as much feeling for them as an inflatable doll. guys need love and assurance or they will seek it elsewhere
2006-09-19 10:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by blade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have affairs with women so women have as many affairs as men do why do you not have an affair too call me i will do all i can to help hee hee
2006-09-20 04:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are very optically stimulated. and physical.. its not about emotions when they cheat.. its about being attracted to something new, and wanting to "conquer" the new quest.. reason why Most men stay with their wives and dont leave for the mistress.. their emotionally attached to the wife, and just physically attached to the mistress..
Most women that cheat dont cheat for the physical part of sex.. or even the physical looks of the man.. usually its an emotional attachment, something they have not getting from their husband, attention, they dont feel desired , wanted, needed, ect.. so prince charming swoops in tells her all the things she wants to hear and boom next things she knows she's sleeping with another man..
2006-09-19 08:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally believe alot of the reason men have affiars is because they r insecure about their looks-personality-and self in general! They only feel attractive if some girl is slobbering all over him. They like to feel that other women still find them desireable. Plus they figure they r just so damn good they will never ever get caught! Its insecurity and stupidity that does it for them!
2006-09-19 08:56:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋