My Ex-wife and I were having long arguments during our marriage regarding her old job. I didnt find the work hours appropriate, plus the nature of her job was not very comforting to me as a husband. I was able to find her a more ethical job at that time with a better pay, and asked her to quit the old job and take the other one that I found her instead. She insisted that she would never change her job because she loves it, and that she preferred to settle for a divorce rather than taking any other job. Shortly after that, we got our divorce.
Two months after the divorce, I find out that she took the same job offer I found her! Shes been working there for the past three weeks, and I seriously dont know what to do. The only reason she was given the job is because I know the owner, but the owner didnt get to know about the divorce. I find this unfair and that I should be doing something about it, & Im willing to do anything just to take revenge. What do you guys think/suggest?
2006-09-19 08:25:56 · 38 answers · asked by Zwerg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Revenge is sweet ... but karma's a snatch. It will catch up to her soon or later. Be a man cause she's only a baby, and get on with your life.
2006-09-19 08:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children?
Was she a prostitue or held some other inappropriate job?
Who are you to decide what is appropriate for an adult woman?
Besides do you think that she couldnt have gotten the job based her her abilities alone or does everything have to have your name wrapped up in it?
If you do something to cause her to lose her job, she can file suit against you for lost wages and slander against her name.
You sound like a very controlling person and she is better off without you.
If you take any revenge on her I hope you get exactly what you deserve and I hope she ends up sueing you for everything you have.
Revenge?? I laugh when I see men like you. Why is it unfair she has the job now. They probably hired her based on her own credentials not yours. Word has a way of travelling fast, who is to say that the owner didnt know about the divorce?
Just because you say he isnt allowed to know doesnt make your word law.
2006-09-19 08:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is a petty emotion that ALWAYS cost the person seeking revenge alot more than the person you susposedly get your revenge on. Your ex may be making life changing decisions( hopefully for the better). NO matter how angry you feel, you should wish her well and simply move on. I am sure this situation is alot more complicated that you say and I imagine that the issues that seperated this marriage did not rest simply on a job choice. Instead of denying what themajor issues were, spend your time fixing your internal issues and consider this a learning experience.
2006-09-19 08:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by basketchick43078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur being petty and stupid.. she finally did what u always wanted her to do, and ur still not happy???? Maybe she felt that her marriage vows shouldnt be based on her occupation, which u seemed to base your love for her based on her occupation to the point that u divorced her.. Nice.. U need to grow up.. as u have zero clue what it takes to be married, and for u to try and get revenge only makes u look more immature to all those around u and a bigger jerk.. So u look like the bad guy all the way around to everyone..
2006-09-19 08:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your having a major power struggle..just can't tell if it's with yourself or your ex....you do know she's your ex now right? She's no longer your concern, so relax...what are you gettin your balls all schriveled up for? So she has a job that you helped get her...wish her luck and move on. You keep these nasty feelings toward her in your heart and your #1 going to be miserable and #2 take it out on the next person. It's not worth it...let it go.
2006-09-19 08:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too late to do anything about getting her the job. Her boss can't fire her just because you divorced her. Let it go, buddy.......I assume that she didn't want to be controlled and told where she could work by her husband. The best revenge is living well!!!
2006-09-19 08:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you got divorced because she would not take a job but because you were trying to run her life.
(Reread how you wrote this and see if you cannot distinguish that yourself re I got her a ob offer- I did not feel her job was appropriate- isn't she woman enough to determine that herself? )
You re only making a fool of yourself y seeking revenge so let it go. It is childish and petty to play this game and the only loser is you.
2006-09-19 08:42:40 · answer #7 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your EX must be a stripper its okay she is in love with the money for now she feels this sense of power that she don't need you.But what comes around goes around don't do anything to get back at her because no good will come to you. She is going to need you before you need her.And if she had to lie about the job ask yourself what else has she been lying about to you also??
2006-09-19 08:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by keishahayes2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's no longer your property or what she does is none of your business. Be glad she took your advice if she had an unethical job and wish her luck and maybe find a guy that appreciates her for working and contributing to the finances.
She was probably working at the job where you met her?
2006-09-19 08:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is never a good thing as it has the potential to backfire on u. Instead, move on with your life and let karma do the rest because what goes around always comes around.
2006-09-19 08:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she used the job situation as an excuse for the divorce. Just let her go and don't waste any more of your time on her.
2006-09-19 08:35:03 · answer #11 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋