i have been seeing this bloke 4 about 2 months and then the other day he told me he only wants to be friends i'm fed up with him messing me around, becaquse he said this b4 and then changed his mind again, he still wants 2 b friends with me because he has'nt really got any friends of his own. what should i do? i dont want 2 keeo getting hurt.
2006-09-19 08:16:50 · 17 answers · asked by aj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friends are honest with one another...if he keeps playing with your feelings, then he's not really a true friend. It's much better to have NO friends than it is to have friends who aren't trustworthy.
Sometimes it's just not possible to be friends with someone that you've dated...if the trust isn't there, that makes friendship very difficult.
It doesn't sound like this guy is a very good friend to you....I think that you can find (and deserve) much better!
Best of luck to you, hon. :)
2006-09-19 08:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To provide a more insightful response to your predicament, it would be helpful to know more about your life status, - by that I mean are you 18 and in your first apartment, - first time away from home?
Or are you 28 and divorced with no kids, a partner in a big time law firm - a type A personality, who has to be in control of every aspect of your life? Serendipity and spontenaity scare you, you don't like suprises, and you are definately "City" as opposed to "Country". You know what you want and how to get it - but men generally baffle you, and that's why this guy has you so turned around - you're not in charge. He's calling the shots - even if you could'nt stand hi, even if you never wanted to see him again, he's in control of the relationship - and it's driving you crazy. Get out now sweetie, and go spend so of those hard earned dollars on a little therapy.
Or are you a divorced mother of three, with a college degree, gone back to teaching grade school. A beautiful woman who has kept herself in good shape, who is bright and funny, and has all the normal sexual and romantic desires of a woman half her age.
Someone who needs a man to talk to at the end of a long day, someone to share whispered confidences with, someone to hold you in his arms and make the world go away. A man who loves your kids as much as they do him.
This "Bloke" you've been seeing doesn't seem the man you need, or want. Oh, maybe at first he was dangerous, and the sex was great, - but it sounds like he's already moving on, and you should too. What do you want? A man is what he has done, felt, and suffered; thru his hands you can see into his heart. I wish you luck, remember to leave room in your heart for angels to dance.
Bear.
2006-09-20 09:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he wants you to be his booty call. The thing is that if you try to be friends with him then what is it to say that he will not do the same again? You will be the only one to get hurt. If he has no friends then you must start wondering if there isn't something wrong with him. That would make it seem that you are his last resort since he has no one else to turn to (which means that you're being used). My advice to you is not to break the friendship but rather just to be friends from far. Dont try to get into a personnal relationship cause whenever he finds a girl that he has more interest in, he will dump you again and want to 'just be friends'.
2006-09-19 08:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the guy..he probably only wants to get in your pants...well at least that is what is seems like from your description of the situation...a 2 month relationship that already has problems isnt going to work out...trust me...im sure you are more than pretty enough to find another bf that can treat you better...if all else fails...flip a coin
2006-09-19 08:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by narfanator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy you should leave him alone. Dont call him and dont except his offer to be friends. When he sees you are serious about leaving him alone he will call and come by alot. They want what they cant have. And he is scared to commit. You have to give them a reason to do it. Try it. Youll see.
2006-09-19 08:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Diva Singa LA Wild Style 4 Real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some space and lots of time.
It doesnt work to be friends with him if you feel something more....unless youre over him, found someone new...and then your new guy probably wont want you to be friends with him.
Best thing to do is move on.
2006-09-19 08:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to be jerked around again, you are letting him do this, i have been through this before, you need to make a clean break and just forget him.
2006-09-19 08:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses. Don't waste your time with this guy stringing you along. The time you waste with him, is valuable time you could be spending with someone who really wants your time.
Tell him you have enough friends.
2006-09-19 08:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by lion75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your better off with out him, apparently it's his own fault he doesn't freinds...Your worth more than the crap he puts you thru... time to leave Mr. Wrong alone so you can find Mr. Right.
2006-09-19 08:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Boo Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey , why would anybody ever b friends with some1 thats been messin u up like tht? Sooo.... Don't be friends with him cuzzz he's just goin 2 keep jerkin!
2006-09-19 08:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by mariah!:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋