i was out for a night and ended up kissing and dancing with another woman. i havent told my wife as i think this would not help our relationship. i havent contacted this woman and wont. have i cheated.
2006-09-19 08:10:43 · 83 answers · asked by ehwave 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you living in 1970's
2006-09-20 03:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a tree falls in the forest does it make any sound if no ones there to hear it???? the answer is yes..
And the answer to ur ? is yes as well, just because ur wife didnt see it, its still cheating.. and u know it..
Its good that u learned ur lesson... and ur probably right with the whole "What she doesnt know wont hurt her".. but like all lies, it will eventually come to a head.. so she eventually find out in do time.. then she'll feel as if a giant stomped on her heart and soul.. and the longer it goes before she finds out, the longer her life will feel like a fake, and the more she'll feel like a fool... knowing that other people knew , and she didnt.. she'll realize that her marriage is based on a lie.. that her love for you is a joke.. and how the person thats supose to love her the most.. treated her love like a pile of sh*t one night and although u may of not actually slept with the girl.. she'll always wonder, and she'll always doubt, and the happiness she once felt , in her world of bliss of thinking she had a great marriage will turn into a nightmare of insecurities, despair and personal torture, because she will always eat away at herself thinking she wasnt good enough, that her husband would rather kiss another woman then her , even if it was only ONE night.. she'll never be the same , and her trust in u, and in others will be destroyed if not for many years.. for life.. Hope it was worth it..
2006-09-19 08:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you cheated. Any physical contact with another person other than shaking hands is classed as cheating. Kissing can be more intimate than sex and carries a lot of emotions. I seriously hope you won't contact this woman again and that you have learnt your lesson. If you love your wife but cannot control yourself, I suggest you start going out with your wife more, or mates that can keep an eye on you, but keep their mouth shut. If however, kissing when out becomes a norm, you'll really have to ask yourself whether you indeed love your wife or are just immature to handle your drink (I assume that's what lead to your regretable actions).
2006-09-19 08:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one should think of such an act as a minor indiscretion and not really as cheating. Cheating implies more than a kiss. It wasn't much more than what you might get up to with an aunt at a wedding! Obviously, it wouldn't be a good idea to try to keep in touch with the woman in question - if that's the end of it, then move on, forget about it and don't dwell on it - otherwise your perceptive wife (well, she IS a woman) will wonder what's going on!
2006-09-19 08:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by big pup in a small bath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Just because you don't want it to be cheating doesn't mean it isn't. What I would do is: never do it again first of all, and pray for forgiveness. That's a terrible thing you did, and I know we're just human, but you made a commitment. If you knew you were going to cheat when you got married, would you have gotten married? Don't contact this woman, and ask God for forgiveness, and the right thing to say in front of your wife, when you tell her. Hopefully, if you pray hard enough, she will forgive you too. Good luck pal
2006-09-19 08:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by joeyschiliro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you got the girl's number, too? Hopefully you've deleted it from your cell or thrown it away by now, unless you want to get caught?! I'm certain that ANY woman you were in a relationship with (wife or not) would have serious trust issues after that. If this was a one-time transgression, keep it to yourself. But if you're tempted more than that, you need to find a way to talk to your wife and figure out what's wrong with your relationship to her.
2006-09-19 08:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by omg_sotrue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you most certainly did cheat on your wife. You kissed another woman not in an innocent way on the dance floor without your wife's knowledge. This is cheating.
2006-09-19 08:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Yes, I would consider this to be cheating. I would tell her about it. She will be devastated for a while, but if your relationship is strong - you'll both come through it even stronger. Remember, none of us are perfect, and who knows, she might have kissed another man long before you ever kissed this woman!
2006-09-19 08:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon your intentions. Is it OK if she goes out and dances & kisses other guys without you around? Pick your poison and watch your doings. Don't say a thing to the wife as there is no benefit to it and it may cause problems of mistrust and more. Not worth it, but don't be stupid and do it again
2006-09-19 08:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone came to you tomorrow and showed you a picture of your wife snogging another man would you feel cheated? I'm thinking yes and you're probably not going to be that bothered about whether she called him again or not. If I was you I would start praying she doesn't find out.
Good Luck!
2006-09-19 08:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell your wife but I believe any woman would feel you had cheated in a case like this if the shoe were on the other foot would think she was cheating???
2006-09-19 08:14:01 · answer #11 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋