Philosophical question: If your spouse told you he/she was a criminal in the past, but had become a good person just because they loved you so much, would you file for divorce or forgive them? Or both?
2006-09-19 08:03:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Depends on what the crime was. Also you would need to work through the fact that they kept something so vital from you.
2006-09-19 08:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on whether or not he married me before telling me. If he was not honest enough to tell you that he was a criminal, prior to marriage, then he has not changed, and is still a dishonest person.
If he is honest enough to tell you right up front, then he truly has changed, and is an honest individual. What he did in the past is in the past. It matters NONE today, as long as you are certain that he has changed.
That is why you have a very long engagement, prior to marriage. Because, as much as you think you know this guy, men change between 6 months and 1 year after you get to know them, and especially six months to a year after engagement. That is a fact...statistically.
Good luck!
;o)
2006-09-19 08:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be able to in no way recover from this "cheating" in case you persist with your husband, and you'd be able to in no way regain the believe you as quickly as had. you are able to desire to come to a determination if his emotional cheating is something you're prepared to settle for or if it has broken the Sanctity of the Vows you the two took. take a glance interior your heart and answer it actual. do no longer base your determination on the fact your baby has specific desires.....it may desire to be on what's authentic for you, for to stay in a marriage it extremely is a lie, has no love and isn't any longer outfitted on believe and recognize, will extremely harm a baby despite if or no longer they are "commonplace" or specific desires, and you isn't satisfied. i will inform you that I raised 4 specific desires infants on my own, my spouse abandoned, and those infants have grown up somewhat properly, and that i be attentive to an outstanding deal happier than if she had remained. replaced into it perplexing, of course it replaced into, yet whilst i will strengthen 4, open a business enterprise of my own and run it without help at abode or artwork, then so are you able to. Your determination could desire to be based completely on your emotions. the two way it is going to take artwork, purely you are able to come to a determination in the journey that your husband is actual remorseful and well worth a while. undergo in techniques, maximum situations, as quickly as a cheat continuously a cheat. Use your techniques and don't enable the wear cloud your imaginitive and prescient, come to a decision and persist with it.
2016-10-17 07:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not file for a divorce. i would like to know about that past, but not be forceful. in time maybe the past details would be told. but NO divorce.
2006-09-19 08:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by eric m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Background checks are a good thing, Not that expensive either. For me, I guess if I found myself in that situation, it would depend on the crime they committed.
2006-09-19 08:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the criminal past. If it was murder, child molestation, rape, or anything like that I would be scared. It depends on your situation, and your gut feeling.
2006-09-19 08:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by HAYLEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive.........the past of this person you loved enough to marry made them person they are today.
We have all made mistakes in our pasts. The smart ones learn from them.
2006-09-19 08:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could tell that they had genuinely changed then u shouldn't divorce them.
2006-09-19 08:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly it depends on the level of love, first i would try to make for solutions
2006-09-19 09:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jubei 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something I would discuss before marriage♥
2006-09-19 08:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋