I have never really been crazy about my gf's friends, but this weekend we went to one of her friend's very upscale weddings and after too much to drink a very close friend of hers was belittling me, my job and the fact that I am in the Air Force (not making the kind of money he and his friends do, apparently). I kind of went irate (once again, too much to drink) and caused a bit of an uproar, at which the bride told me that my gf deserves a better bf than myself. Since then I have talked to her and explained why I was so mad; that a lot of her friends are very snobbish and look down on me because of my job (I fuel planes for the Air Force). She agrees but does not want to lose them as friends. At this point I want nothing to do with them. Any suggestions on how to come to amicable terms over this?
2006-09-19 08:02:18 · 11 answers · asked by nyer_stuck_in_dc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My boyfriend isn't fond of my friends either. If they come over he will stand them and he doesn't really say much. He usually does his own thing and we do our own thing. I am not really fond of his friends either to be honest. So when they come over I do my own thing but I'll say hello and stuff to be nice. At least you're working...there are some people who don't even bother to get a job. Don't worry about what they're saying about you...if you're gf loves you it shouldn't matter what they say. Just be happy with yourself and the accomplishments you have made :).
2006-09-19 08:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Snowtoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society, being in the Air Force is a honor in serving your country.
Furthermore, I wouldn't want to put my character on the same level as snobbish people by feeding into their ignorance by responding.
As long as you have self confidence and esteem in yourself, if they judge you who cares just feel good inside about yourself and that will defeat any ignorance of snobbish against you.
Somebody is always going to have more or make more money than someone else.
What if a person who makes and have more money than them belittle them for what they do how would they like it.
It's ignorance of the mind that make people act like that especially when no one is above sickness, loss of income, accidents, and various other inflictions that can bring someone who think their up today down tomorrow.
Putting fuel in planes is a job that need to be done and your doing so don't let those type of people make you feel bad about what you chose to do.
If your girlfriend is understandable that they are her friends and not yours and she has to deal with them and not you, I think you can ease your mind some.
I wouldn't allow myself to feel I am less than a person because they feel you don't equal up to their standards.
Don't blame it all on the alcohol how you acted because when someone talks down on you because of what you do it can upset you that is a human reaction in response.
Don't wait until you get alcohol in you to speak your mind you don't have to act out of line have a commonsense conversation about your feelings and I wish you and your girlfriend good luck in trying to keep a relationship going positive with all this negativity around it.
2006-09-19 08:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you have an event to attend tell her that her friends need to show you respect and if they can't then don't hang out with them and be proud of what you do and if your GF can't stand up for you and let her friends know what a great guy you are then you need to dump her and find someone that will stand up for you and not let friends put you down
2006-09-19 08:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a hard one. My bf also doesn't approve of my friends and now i don't have any chicks to talk to. All I have to say is I'm glad that you stuck up for your self because obviously your girl didn't and that doesn't say much for her. I'd have to say let her know that if she doesn't stick up for you then she's just like them and she doesn't deserve you not the other way around. Keep your head up sweety!
2006-09-19 08:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by willokta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quite often friends drop away after a couple marry and begin their own life. between work, couple activities and babies there isn't much time for anything else. that's no guarantee however. there is a reason your girlfriend is friends with these people. have you considered that? is it a self-esteem issue where she wants to fit in or possibly she is just like them when she not playing nicey nice. good luck on your life decisions.
2006-09-19 08:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isnt right for her to expect you to take belittling from her friends, yet it sounds like that exactly what shes doing. If she is insistant to remain friends with them, then let her. But you dont have to subjected to them. If shes gonna spend time with them, you can go elsewhere. She wants you to accept her friends, but she needs to have her friends accept you for who/what you are as well.
2006-09-19 08:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind them that they can sleep tight tonight, because the US Air Force is awake.
2006-09-22 19:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stupid drunk girls and their belittling...well if they (your gf and her friends) are really close...cliche's would say she would leave you for them...but i would probably ignore them...dude you're in the airforce...you take part in kicking *** in the air...people like you make people like them have all their money...because you defend that right to be snobbish...forget them they shouldnt be a priority to you...kicking *** in the air should be...and making sweet love to your gf too...
...hope things work out....
2006-09-19 08:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by narfanator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose that chick with those unpatriotic friends. You are doing a good thing my friend. Tell those stuck up girls that they are civilian trash
2006-09-20 09:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by arpowre3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they need 2 stop bein dickheads if shes your girlfriend she ought to stand up for you regardless of friends or not there ****** snobs **** em if they disrespect you it should be disrespect to her to that **** really pisses me the **** off you should have punched him dead in his ****** mouth she should have stood up for you thats wrong on her part also
2006-09-19 08:10:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋