I am going out with someone and he keeps putting pressure on me all of the time, we see each other nearly every day, but i have just started college and he keeps saying if we dont see each other as much he will finish me, the thing is my college comes first as does my studying, and my job how on earth can i balance my course, job and relationship, will i lose my relationship? The other thing is we always argue are we destined not to be together?
2006-09-19 07:54:37 · 12 answers · asked by robertapdixon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The other thing is he keeps having mood swings and being nasty to me and about my family, he keeps getting irritable, angry and lashing out at me about issues, he makes me upset and cry a lot and keeps saying he wants to commit suicide he says a lot of nasty comments am i worth dumping him?
2006-09-19 08:01:01 · update #1
You need to dump him and find someone more compatible with you. Doesn't sound like a good relationship to me
2006-09-19 07:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys who say they will commit suicide if their woman leaves them wont do it. If he was gonna kill himself he would have already. I know that sounds harsh, but seriously suicidal people more often than not dont go around tellin people they are gonna kill themselves.
He needs to understand that thru college you are trying to better yourself, thru your job you are trying to provide for yourself.
No two people who are in love with each other need to see just each other every day. Its a course for disaster.
If he cant understand these things then you need to get rid of him and find a mature man to have a relationship with. He isnt the only man in the world.
If you guys argue everytime you are together thats not a good sign.
Sit down with him and talk to him, explain how things are for you and how much he means to you. Just as well explain how much these other things in life mean to you. Having a good job means that you will be able to support yourself without waiting for handouts, having a good education means that you can go up in the career world, better job, better hours more money and better benefits. Believe me if the benefits arent there, the money isnt going to be either.
If these things dont mean anything to him and they are not important to him, then ditch him.
Does he work? Does he have a job? Does he go to college?
Do you and he share any of the same dreams?
If he doesnt want you to go to colleg and work is he going t o support you and all of your needs?
2006-09-19 08:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he only cares about what he wants and not what is best for you. If he cared he wouldn't pressure you that much and would be patient. No one wants arguing, it's just not healthy to be doing it all of the time.
It sounds like a bad mix, is he really worth the trouble for you?
2006-09-19 07:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by ilovecopeland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good if you can't agree. Maybe you should be firm and just say your college work needs to come first. Tell him if he's serious about you then he will understand and will wait. You can still see each other but your work needs to be your priority.
2006-09-19 07:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop arguing, do what you have to do, get your priorities right, because it's your future. If he puts pressure on you instead of supporting you, he's a loser. Don't bother putting up with him any longer, give him his walking papers.
2006-09-19 07:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shows a lack of support and indfference to your feelings. He wants what he wants when he wants it.
This is not the man for you. You deserve someone who is gonna be there for you, support you, back you up. Not someone who wants to drag you down because you are not there for his convenience.
2006-09-19 07:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is being pretty selfish, he should understand that you are strapped for time. as far as the relationship goes save yourself some trouble and end it now
2006-09-19 08:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by coupnomo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divide your time as good as u can ..... talk to him about his moods and umm if u really love him try not to get in fights with him when he's mad ..... guys do get bored easily ..... though the part about he saying he'll leave u and that he'll kill himself it shows he's selfish u need to consider the fact he might have problems ..... i'm just saying talk to him about what it bothers u or him
2006-09-19 08:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take care of yourself first. If he can't understand that and be there for you. Move on.
2006-09-19 07:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Myke BoDean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him why he's putting pressure on you.
2006-09-19 07:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋