I have a freind who told moved in with her girl friend and know her kids hate her. They do not want anything to do with her and all live with their dad. Is this common or an isolated case?
2006-09-19 07:50:55 · 12 answers · asked by Ginger N 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wait until they are old enough to understand what it means, and the societal ramifications it entails.
2006-09-19 07:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well.. there is nothing to hide. I think that their father may be putting certain ideas in the childrens' minds. I think if the mother and girlfriend and children have a problem, they all need to sit down and talk and ask what the problem is. Children are so very impressionable. So, if the father has put ideas of hate into the childrens' minds, the mother and girlfriend can easy restore some of the love and understanding with talking and showing there is nothing wrong or to hide with their relationship.
2006-09-19 10:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Vita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids may also dislike your friend because they might feel that their mother chose a woman over the father and they are upset about the separation. I don't know the circumstances involved so I can only speculate.
I think that you should not hide it from your children. By doing so, it may lead them to believe that what you are doing is wrong or immoral. Instead, be open about it and let them see that while it is different than the norm it does not mean that it is anything wrong.
2006-09-19 07:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common. Kids are amazingly perceptive. They also recognize when something strange is going on, and to some of them, this is strange. For those who think gay is innate, or hardwired, consider that the opposite might also be true--children who innately, or are hardwired to, heterosexuality may therefore have serious problems dealing with this. After all, we already know children have difficulty dealing with divorce because of that innate, hardwired, sense that family includes mother AND father.
2006-09-19 08:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any reason to lie to kids, not even by omission. Answer questions as they come up, and of course, if another woman (or man, as the case may be) moves in with y'all, they *will* come up.
A lot of kids don't like their dads' girlfriends, either. And my mom was widowed, and I was horrible to any of her boyfriends who got too close, because you know, how dare they try to substitute for my Daddy? It's not just a gay thing.
2006-09-19 07:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised my sons with full knowledge from a very early age...why wait...? Being Gay is not a sin, is not a crime...just a state of being. Why make it more than it is...a fact of life. IF you wait, they will have time to form prejudice. Not a good idea.
2006-09-19 07:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how your children feel about homosexuality? If not, ease into the topic. Don't come right out and say "so... I'm gay and living with a same sex partner". Test the waters.
2006-09-19 07:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't tell them now, they're going to figure it out sooner or later and then be pissed at you for not telling them sooner. I suggest the sooner the better. If they don't accept you... well at least you aren't lieing to them right? Be honest with your kids.. they're your kids!!!!
2006-09-19 07:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the kids and the relationship they have/had with their dad.
2006-09-19 07:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should be a certain age, my guess is: not before they are eleven or maybe ten or so.
2006-09-19 07:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋