1) It seems more people are relucant to get married for fear it will fail. It has become more of a joke, and not taken seriously. Some people even ridicule those for being married.
2) The divorce rate is getting higher and higher.
3) More women have become sexually experiemental with the same sex to avoid men.
4) More relationships between men and women are based on sex and money, not love. And don't last.
What ever happened to taking love seriously? Anyone here in real life long relationships? Should people forget looking for real love and not care?
People in real life long loving relationships, what are your thoughts on this?
People against marriage and don't believe in true love, what are your thoughts?
2006-09-19 07:45:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe people have lost sight of the real meaning of true love. In this technologically-driven age everyone wants instant gratification, so they think infatuation = love. They don't understand that true love and infatuation are two different animals. Then, when they marry after knowing each other a few months, they are unhappy and quickly divorce instead of working on the relationship- another example of our instant gratification-wanting society.
2006-09-19 09:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Macbeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be married to be in a committed, long-term relationship. You're either faithful or you're not. If fear of financial ruin or public embarrassment through a divorce is all that is keeping two people together, that's really sad.
People spend too much time looking at Hollywood for examples of how to live life. People choose their partners for all the wrong reasons - money, looks, social status, etc.
The other problem is that people have too many options these days. It's so easy to think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence instead of being happy with what they have. It's wonderful that a woman can survive on her own and that a divorce does not carry the social stigma that it used to, but people now get married thinking, "If this doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce a few years down the road."
Sometimes you have to wait a long time for true love to come along, and most people aren't willing to wait.
2006-09-19 14:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was married for over 25 years faithfully!!! It just happens I never thought I would be a "divorced mom" but, here I am and I actually love it! I am happier than I was the last 10 yrs of my marriage. I do miss it sometimes not the man but, the "real idea" coming home to "my" man going out and not have to go alone unless I wanted to. I think about as I am getting older I don't think I want to be alone for the rest of my life but, once you have been through an ordeal like that you think before you jump into anything else... Certain things haunt you I believe... Love should always play a big factor in any relationship...!
2006-09-19 14:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think true love between a man and a woman (or man and man or woman and woman) cannot and does not exsist. I also believe that humans beings, as a species, are not trustworthy. I think that if people ( any people) want to get married, go ahead. But if in five months, two years, ten years, the whole thing falls apart, do not take the martyr approach with anyone. You knew what you were getting into.
2006-09-19 15:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people do take marriage way too lightly. They have the mindset that if it doesnt work out, then we can always divorce. Hense, the growing divorce rate. I happen to believe that marriage is for better or worse. You cannot expect to spend your life with someone and have everything be all peaches and cream your whole life. Thats completely unrealistic.
I think my marriage is as perfect as one can get. We communicate and never fight over financial problems. Thats always a big reason why most couples fight. We are friends as well as lovers. We are partners. We stand together when it comes to our kids.
It can happen. People just have to realize that being married takes work and effort.
2006-09-19 14:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in marriage because I don't believe anything is forever. "As long as you both shall live" is more than I could ever reasonably promise and I don't make promises I can't keep. People CHANGE, and with the best intentions in the world and all the love you can muster, sometimes it just doesn't last. I've never been married and I probably never will be.
2006-09-19 15:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mooseles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married before,i did it for show(a very wrong reason)i left her,filed for devorce,cause i did not love her,i did not want to b married,im not against marriage at all,i think a marriage is a sacred thing and should be taken seriouse(i didnt)i was younger then and now i have met the right one she is six years older than me.we are both broke,have awesome sex,and both have boys.one a peice.now i beleive that love is real,i found it and wasnt even looking for it.i beleive a marriage is what you make of it.if you try hard enough and work through things it will work if you dont....wel you know what the outcome will be.its love for us holding us and that brought us together,she has made a man out of me,and its worth it to me.i love her deeply,and i know she feels the same way,we are now engaged to be married and this time for me its for the right reasons.we both have been married before and obviously they didnt work.
so in conclusion.
true love does exist,go through life having fun and be safe doing so,if there is love out ther for anyone it will find them.
2006-09-19 14:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by odell w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in love but not in marriage necessarily. I am not anti-marriage but they definately do not need to go hand in hand. A marriage certificate is not enough to keep couples together as the divorce rate clearly shows! I think we grow up watching movies and hearing love songs and our views on love are formed, and then we are disappointed with reality. The 'sweeping us off our feet' feeling of love is short lived unfortunately, and coupled with this generations priviledge of instant gratification it makes for splitsville when the relationship requires work.
2006-09-19 14:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by jody s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I not too long ago found the man of my dreams and the man I love with my whole heart. I take being married very serious and I think that everybody will end up finding the person they are suppose to love. And if you haven't found that person yet then keep looking don't give up.
2006-09-19 15:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley F.M. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents, and my grandparents on both sides mannaged to mary and stay married (my paternal grandparents just celebrated 50 yrs and unfortunately, my maternal grandfather passed away.... his wife, my grandma, is still unmarried and refuses to think of anyone but him) I want that.. I want to grow old together with the one I love TOO. I think today too many people marry without fully understanding what they're agreeing to. Marriage is a commitment... unfortunately, today's society is full of selfishness... it's all about me me me, instead of "us"
and what is good for "us". Where's the compromise, where's the till death do us apart, where's the commitment.?
2006-09-19 14:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋