if u hv choice to select family or love than wat u will select? and why?

Question

sometimes life create confusion. and family do not get ready for guy or girl whom we like than wat will be right decision?

Answer 1

follow your heart. if you think that he or she is worth fighting for then do it, later on your family will understand you, but you have to prove them wrong, make them see and believe that you made the right decision

Answer 2

it is up to you. i'm in love with a guy who is not from my religion and culture, the culture part doesnt matter but the religion does. however i will still want to be together with him even if my family doesnt agree, as i have never felt like this before and will not want to let himslip throguh my fingers. my family wouldnt be the ones who are in this relationship, it is my decision and my choice and i think he will make me happy. My family would just have to accept it, because i will not change my mind. However it would be difficult to do this if you were in another country, (i'm in england) but if you were in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh then it would be difficult, or if you were from eastern asia, there are honor killings etc. Wherever you come from , goodluck!

Answer 3

definitely family is more important. next optin is secondary. but u can convince family for marriage option. since in future u cannot survive without parants support. love to one side should not create hatred on other side . u cannot be peaceful in life. life means not love but so many issues r there. part of the society is always welcome. caste nativity career relatives friends professionals all r linked to family only not for lovewmatters. it is only good in movies. not in real life . love vanishes immmediately after marriage several fight r going to take place surely its common. in that case ego clashes r going to take place . some body has to be there . who will come . only family . never underestimate the value of elders. eventhougfh it dos not look that easy. remember the blessings of family are invaluable. that cannot be measured. and one more important point is emotional security. it is very very dangerous regarding the conflcts time. it burns like anything . bloodrelation is higly powerful . they forget your mistakes and forgive and help alot since they have affection from the child hood. how can u ignore the seeds so easily. love should strong enough not tobe effeted by moneymatters, otherwise no use. thats why some movies they show hard working fighting with heart convince to the parants wait until their hearts get wet./ eye drops will come surely from their eyes. after all tehy are your parants. definitely they know it is good match for u if it is good . u must give respect for the experience. i konw many tragedies who ignores their parants suffering alot . i dont want u to be in that situation in future. physical attraction will vanish oneday. so it is not mathematical equation that we can say which option is better. life is interesting u need to apply heart take time to honor all . incase of difficulty go for the god . he will help. god bless you.

Answer 4

We have to select family because our parents have done every good thing for us and some sacrifices if ur love is true then u must solve the problems in your family about alove and get permission for marriage.

Answer 5

i would select my family....'coz v owe smething 2 our parents, if v choose our luv, then our parents can't face the outside world...once it so happened with my close neighbour...her daughter ran away with a christian 2 yrs ago and did not return...but till now our neighbour has not come out of the house except 4 her daily chores, she neither talks 2 any1 and i swear dat i can hear ocassional sobs escaping her, from my window...think abt her, she luvd her daughter very much, but wot has d daughter given back? 4get luv, she violated her own cultues of a brahmin and i bet right now she is tearing at a chicken bone with her husband...we have duty towards our parents, our own luv can be replenished somehow, but a mother's/father's luv can never be done so....think...am i right?

Answer 6

first you need to know about urself .Are u infatuated or into real love? everything is based on your partner...Is he able to keep you happy all your life? Test him and tell your family if your love is really deserve for you..your family won't ignore the guy you love..you must be matured to have your decission urself....now a days parents are not so narrow minded..In the beginning they will refuse but if you are stronger they might follow you...only you need to keep patience..

Answer 7

I chose my family.
Coz I think - its ur family which would stand by u wenever u need it - it happened with me - the conditions were such tht I realized - wen thr was no1 with me, it was my DAD always standing beside me.
Ur dad might be strict but just come to remember those days wen u were a kid n wenever u used to get ill - who was by ur side then, who ran to doctors, who shed tears for u ??
Who ran for ur admissions whole ur life - 1st in schools, n then in college.
Who ever cared iff u ate rught - iff u wore right - iff u behaved right.......
N u'll get ur answer sweetheart.

Answer 8

Do not rush in and burn the bridges.

You know, you can have both. You do not have to make such choices.

Diplomacy is the answer. This is an art, it can be leaned by any one. Patience is a virtue, you must develop, time will tell.

Answer 9

Well..If it's your family they should love who ever you love. They should see that you are happy and accept it. If they are not happy with the person you are with then tough. You could ask them why they are against it. find out first before you go ahead and say bye bye to them.

Answer 10

first introduce him/her to your family and explain how he/she is like. The right decision is introducing him/her to your family and explaining them how he/she is like and then they will decide if they are happy or not.