how do a lose my fear of flying?

Answer 1

fly

Answer 2

i had always put off flying before ,but i made a point of saying to myself i must fly before i reach 40 ,well a few weeks back i had to succumb to this ,i must admit i was a little apprehensive about it but i was amazed how clean and comfy the plane was and how much i enjoyed the taking off and landing ,like a fairground ride ,and once airborn the view from the window was spectacular .I really dont know why i was afraid of flying ,i would brave it and try a short flight to say france or holland if you can just to get used to it ,but its a great feeling knowing that its not that bad at all,i certainly will be flying again ....if you really cant pluck up the courage then try getting a book called neurolinguistic programming for dummies ,this book will give you techniques for changing your mindset from negative to positive ,its also a good read ..good luck ,oh you could always visit a hypnotherapist for more advice on quelling your fears

Answer 3

You realize that it will always be with you, but you stop beating yourself up about it.

If it REALLY bothers you, every time you must fly, visit your doctor a couple of days before and get a prescription for 2 sedatives...one to fly out on, and the other to come home on.

Otherwise, just recognize that you are going to feel afraid and use other activities to take your mind off it...take along a new book that you REALLY want to read. Download your most favorite soothing music on your MP3. Do yoga exercises in your chair. Anything that will relax you.

Answer 4

Fear of flying is a phobia. And all phobias have been shown to be highly treatable with a Behavioral Psychology technique known as Systematic Desensitization. Ideally, you should have a professional that specializes in this treat you. Go to the link below for more information.

Answer 5

You probably won't.

I'm an 18 stone 53 year old, rational man with 3 kids over 20 and 2 grandchildren.

I am heavily into maths and statistics. (They all say that the chances of being invoved in an air incident are next to zero, compared with driving for instance.)

I am still after 100's of flights, like you during take off and landing and minimal turbulance.

I pulled the arm rest off the seat this year landing at Corfu in a perfectly normal landing.

I can understand what you go through completely.

Answer 6

The remedy for your fear of flying is to forget about it and behave like folks who are not controlled by this fear.

Fear has a mental foundation as it is based on thought. It manifests on the plane of your body as a contraction. Some fear is healthy as it is self-protective (like the fear of sudden loud noises). Fear is a problem when you give too much mental energy to a negative possibility.

Since fear always shows up as a mental activity that manifests as a contraction (less physical and mental space) then the antidote is obvious as more space. In other words this means relaxation.

And there are two times when you are realxed:

1) you relax when you are going on vacation; for a time all your responsibilities are put aside and you have a mental space where you 'happily' look forward to a time without any great responsibilities or worries;

2) you relax when you allow yourself to be fully absorbed in an activity. This is like the tranquility in the eye of a hurricane; in this form of relaxation you are calm in the midst of activiy.

How to apply these:

1) give yourself a vacation from the fear of flying;

See that any mental approach that you undertake to 'lose' your fear of flying only reinforces it because the mental understanding that you are doing this particular activity to 'lose your fear' makes you mindful of your fear.

In other words 'what you push against you add to'.

In this light 'taking a vacation from fear' simply means forget about it. Then it will fade into the background because you are starving it of its fuel which is focused mental activity.

2) be calm in the midst of activity;

Find a positive activity that you allow yourself to be fully absorbed in while you are travelling in an airplace. Examples: Crossword Puzzles, Sudoko, Music, Reading, or, Engage in a great conversation... anything that you can conveniently explore while flying that interests you enough that you give your full attention to it.

Lastly, the one thing that links all of the above is your breathing. Simply observing the flow of your breath is a means to let it flow more regularly. And that FLOW creates its own space.

Summary: The antidote for your 'fear of flying':

Don't try to 'lose' it; simply forget about it so you are not feeding it mental energy.

To forget about it; choose the form of relaxation whereby you will create physical and mental space, and at any pont when things are particularly challenging for you - focus on the simple process of releasing and welcoming a quiet breath.

May You Be Richly Blessed,
James

Answer 7

I don't know. Perhaps enlist professional counselling help - someone who could gradually de-sensitise you to your fear. It's a very normal and understandable phobia - flying in the air in a steel vehicle isn't a natural thing, after all.

Answer 8

Baby steps. Try imagining your self not only flying but the fun you will have after reaching your destination.

Answer 9

Immersion/exposure therapy... i.e. go and fly.. some airlines offer flights for this... I think easyjet or Britannia... also the link below is for a "virtual flying" therapy.. which is cheaper and avoids embarrassment.

Answer 10

Go flying.