Couple of months ago caught wife cheating. She has cheated bunch of times since. I have disabled child and she is only one to watch him. I work, she is housewife. I cannot afford to pay anyone to watch son since severely disabled and I don't make much money. Checked with my relatives they won't help put me and my son up so we are stuck...
Decided to let her be open about it so I can deal with it maybe a little better. She has regular boyfriend who daily comes by while son at school.
2006-09-19 06:59:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I reside in Texas. I have checked into SSI from Social Security. Only qualify if making less than $18,000/yr. I make $24,000 which is too much. He can get aid on his own in 1yr 2 months when he turns 18. So trying to wait it out. Called State mental health board - would have to give up custody of son for them to do anything(not an option I will do).
Not trying to get on Springer just thought others might be in same boat. Guess I wanted to hear I am not alone in being totally stuck...
2006-09-19 09:58:39 · update #1
get out you don't deserve to be treated this way
2006-09-19 07:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, what kind of signal do you suppose you're sending out by allowing this woman to do this to you and your child? Staying with a cheater because its convenient for your work schedule and the babysitting just seems pretty darn bizarre. Are you really that into self-abuse? Contact your state agencies and find out what kind of assistance is available for single parents with disabled children. I believe that the Social Security administration has something that can help too. You're not stuck, you're just scared. Pick up the phone and start calling around, starting with Social Services, they can give you leads and then you can contact your lawyer, divorce the cheater and get on with your life.
2006-09-19 14:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by BeenThere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check into your state assisted ins (medicaid) some may even pay for a nurse sitter to sit with your child while you are at work, no matter how disabled a child can pick up on the tention and it is not good for anyone. get rid of the cheating wife apparently she does not take wedding vow to heart or she would have never done it. as far as the family goes they should be ashamed of themselves (unless they just cant afford or unable to help). with your child being disabled he should be on ssi and other assisted ins they should pay for a nurse or sitter. check into it, maybe you leaving will make your wife realize that you 2 are supposed to be her family and no one else
2006-09-19 14:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by treys girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not stuck. Contact agencies that deal with your son's disability. They will guide you to home healthcare providers at little or no cost or on a sliding scale. You also don't have to put up with the disrespect of having a man in your house when you are working. Put your foot down and get a backbone.
2006-09-19 14:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are never stuck! The door swings both ways but apparently, your wife's only swing one way! A disabled child is hard, I have one, but to have him in an unstable enviroment is alot worse to the child. File for a divorce and move on. Remember that you always think you have it so bad but there are others out there who have it worse. It will work out....get your life back!
2006-09-19 14:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by kimpierce76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave her. So while you are at work making money to support her, she is getting it on with random guys in your home. Why should you take care of her if she's just walking all over you? I say kick her out... When there's a will there's a way, and I'm sure there are other options out there that can help you care for your son. I don't think you should sacrafice your happiness for some $lut.
2006-09-19 14:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you honestly not want to fix things between the two of you? If not you dont need to stay in that marriage, because of a child. You can continue to take turns taking care of the child, and you might find someone out there that actually makes you happy, and is willing to help take care of your disabled child. Make yourself happy too,,,,,
2006-09-19 14:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by medgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just give her the 20% of your pay like law demands and let her figure out who's gonna watch the kid while she makes her ends meet. Plus if your kid is that disabled, you should be getting SSI (social security income).
2006-09-19 14:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put a stop to it. You can do it on your own. If a single mother can do it with 3-4 children why can't you. Your wife has no respect for you or your son and it hurting your son buy what she is doing. Leave her
2006-09-19 14:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by lachina74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave her... There are state programs that will help you. I tried to stay with my with my ex.. it ended =up hurting me and my son much more then it was worse... kids know when stuff is going on. Disabled or not, do you want your child thinking that this is how families operate?
2006-09-19 14:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think I'd keep checking out some other options. That is no way to live and your son has to sense that something isn't right and that's not fair to him either. Plus, if you do leave how will she be supported?
2006-09-19 14:02:29 · answer #11 · answered by Coop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋