I have a friend, female, lie too much which make me very very angry and when i confront, she says she was kidding. I tried many times to stop here doing that but its her habit to lie simply. She thinks its a smartness.
2006-09-19 06:50:07 · 14 answers · asked by johan 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
If she is you friend then you should be able to ask her if the two of you can talk. When you talk tell her that her lying is not funny or cute but quite bothersome to you and go on further to explain to her what its like to hear and see her lie all the time. Don,t forget to tell her you only saying this to her because you are her friend and you care about her.
Friends really should be able to say the hard but nessesary things to one another.
2006-09-19 07:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend obvioulsy has issues that she needs to deal with. Probably with self esteem. It is rather insulting to be lied to by a friend, I think I would put some distance between you and drop the friendship down to aquaintance. If you want to stay good friends you will have to always take everything she says with a pinch of salt and not let it upset you, as you know now it may be false. Good luck.
2006-09-19 07:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by photocopy_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is a sickness, a mental disorder rooted in something called OCD. Obsessive compulsive disorder. Some people lie because they really can't help it. It is a stress reliever mechanisim that usually just makes their lives worse for them bcause people like yourself get hurt by it and do not understand.
Ask her if it is a compulsion? Can she help it or does she just do it for fun? If she can help it and you ask her and she doesn't stop, maybe even she isin't aware of how it is actually a disease.
Maybe she needs help and understanding, not judgement and anger.
2006-09-19 07:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person that lies all the time cannot be trusted! This girl has issues! You have to tell her that you cannot continue to be her friend if she is going to keep on lying! Tell her that this grieves your heart and is not fair to you and hers friendship and that you are uncomfortable with it!
So what if she thinks it's "smartness", it's stupidness if you ask me! Especially if it jeopardizes all her relationships with people that are related to her or are her friends! The more she keeps this up the more people are going to distance themselves from her, ask her if she wants that!
2006-09-19 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are called compulsive liars. I have a friend that I really care about that is that way. I just alway tell her that I know when she is lying. I pointed it out to her a couple of times. She has calmed down a lot. You just have to point it out to her everytime she is lying and she'll eventually stop. I use to get mad too. I just throw it in her face everytime she lies. I almost made her cry one time because I just went off. She'll stop just have patience with her.
2006-09-19 07:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I guess that if shameless liers can become US (previous and present) presidents, then it is not such a bad thing to lie. Second of all, you may tell your friend: You don't want to become similar to Bullshit or Penis Clinton, do you?
2006-09-19 07:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by Avner Eliyahu R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...wat you gotta do is think, think if she matters to you, and how much (Judging from your text i dont think she wud matter much).If she is imp to you as much as you are to her, then you just threaten her to break your friendship if she doesnt stop lying. But if she doesnt matter to you or you dont matter to her then just try and ignore her, first a little then a lot, she will get the hint and wont trouble you any more
2006-09-19 07:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is this girl?
Stop being friends with her.
2006-09-19 06:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PEOPLE WILL DENY LIE'S TO THE DEATH IM TIRED OF BACK STABBING AZZ SNAKES WITH FRIENDLY GRINS
2006-09-19 07:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone lies to you then how can you ever trust them? and if you can't trust them, then they aren't much of a friend are they?
2006-09-19 06:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by onlineeeyore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋