He is negative, we are always having protected sex, i got it just a month before meeting my man...
2006-09-19 06:48:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My boyfriend is HIV+, too. We've never had sex. I either have to accept him as he is (and I do) or live without him (I won't do). I would love to be intimite with him, but I'm scared and so is he. We just enjoy each other in other ways. If there was some surefire way that I wouldn't get "sick" too, I'd love to know.
2006-09-19 07:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Milkaholic 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation and I must admit that I it's very difficult. We eventually split up, but it was not really anything to do wiith HIV ... It was me who made him get tested, so in a way he blamed me, I was also accused of trying to control him now that he was HIV+ and finally that I left him because he was HIV+
Safe sex is possible and there are protocols that exist should you become accidentally exposed. Mind you hospitals reserve these for their own personnel and don't like to talk about them. One thing you can do is to share with your man. Take him along with you to your consultations and counselling sessions. Try and join a support group for HIV status disparate couples. Try and not get depressed about your situation. I haven't really understood if you are a hetero or homo couple. From the way you describe the situation you could be a woman or a passive gay.
In any case you giving him an unprotected bj is fairly safe. You can also masturbate and kiss him without protection.
Try and develop things together, do other things and hope for the best. There is as yet no cure in sight, but the disease can be kept at bay for many years now.
All my very best wishes and warmest love
Augusta
2006-09-19 17:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about going to a support group together so he can come to terms with your condition and the effects it has upon the individuals. Once he understands that it is a condition that you can live with as a couple he will settle down. Talking abuot it can help ease the anxiety he may be feeling. Lat him know how much he means and plan a strategy with steps you can both take in order to overcome and fears worries and anxieties you may both be feeling. Just be open with each other. There must be anxieties you have as it is not something you have been living with for very long, communication is key, just continue to have protected sex and good luck for the future and I hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-19 13:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Emma O 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have been in a a relationship like this in the past, and as of this weekend entered another comitted relationship. I am negative anf the bf is positive.
These relationships are not easy. First you and he have to accept the possiblites that he may become positive while with you. You can have safe sex, or even obstain from sex all together and yet he may become positve. Household accidents can occur where he could contract it. (example: you cut yourself and he is accidentlly exposed to your blood).
First practice safe sex, second seek out a counsor at a local health clinic, and read up on it here on the web. Get more information than just safe sex. Learn to protect his life in general. (Example have rubber gloves around so if you get sick he can clean the mess up without gettign exposed. Your blood, vomit and saliva all could expose him to the disease).
Good luck, and more power to those of us living life not frieghtened by it.
2006-09-19 14:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you are top or bottom. If you are top, your lover has every right to be very concerned. He has between 10X and 100X the likelyhood of catching HIV...Always use good condoms and good lube, and withdraw before orgasm.
If he is top, the chances of catching HIV from a clean bottom are low, but always use safe sex methods.
IF you follow meds instructions, your viral load should drop to zero soon. A zero viral load does not make for being very infectious. Good luck
2006-09-19 14:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek out a HIV counsel and learn the ways to protect yourself and your partner. What you are discussing is so unbelievable importnat you need ONLY THE BEST advice, while I enjoy Yahoo Answers very much I would not trust my health care to the mass of stranges that access this site!
2006-09-19 13:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, I'm so proud that you have an openness to discuss your status with your guy. In as much; I would suggest that you guys join a local group to help you to continue to deal with your fears. Your boyfriend's concerns are natural. There must be something special about you, that brings him into your life. Continue to practice protected sex; and watch his back.
2006-09-19 14:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any way you can have sex in a completely safe way. There will always be risk. Consult your doctor or some H.I.V. organization to get better and reliable information. You'll get a lot of misleading information on the internet and from people, so make sure to get info from a good source. It's life or death matter you're dealing with here, so don't take any risks.
2006-09-19 13:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by undir 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Continue having protected/safe sex when you're on it. He should also get tested from time to time, just to make sure things are still good for each other.
2006-09-19 14:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you could try different sex methods rather than penetration. Hand jobs, mutual masturbation, of course using protection is always necessary but just be careful...
2006-09-19 16:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by laydlo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋