Right after graduated high school I found out my good friend got married. About a year or so later she had her first child. I was really jealous that she got married and had a child because I had always wanted that too.
But I went to college, then married and was able to buy a house when my new career got rolling. Now I am 25 and planning to get pregnant soon after being with my husband for 5 years.
I just met up with my friend from high school that married at 18. They live in the basement of her husband’s parents’ house. She said she works at the grocery store and her husband makes nearly nothing at a sporting goods store. She said she loves her child, but is unhappy with her marriage and life. She said she only went to college for one semester and never got to experience “life.”
I felt bad for her, but it made me realize I was better off than her. I thought she had the perfect life!
Have you ever been jealous of someone and realized they don't have a perfect life?
2006-09-19 06:46:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I never said I had a perfect life!
2006-09-19 06:57:44 · update #1
Jealous? No. Curious what it would be like to live in their shoes? Yes. But it seems like just when I'm getting a glimpse into their life and wondering, "Damn, that would be so nice..", something happens and they get themselves in a predicament that snaps me back to reality and makes me appreciate where I am. I feel that life is one constant roller coaster of ups and downs, always changing; Therefore, things may not always be perfect for you and bad for her, vice versa...And she'll be able to look at your situation and say the same thing.
So, in life experience so far, I've learned it best to just appreciate and work on what you have now, versus trying to acquire what everyone else has. Everything and everyone serves a purpose, everything happens the way it does for a reason.
2006-09-19 07:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I used to be so envy and jealous of a friend when I was in high school... I felt she is so full of life and always happy and outgoing.. She had alot of friends and alot of boys like her,... And I was total opposite of her...
But then years passed I met my soulmate married him and carrying his child which is due of November.. He have a decent job and we are really happy...
I found out that her ex raped her and she's carrying a child that she doesn't even want.. And she have to support the baby on her own which is impossible because she is still in college..
So yes I decide that to compare myself to others because you haven't even wear their shoes be in their shoes....
2006-09-19 06:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems jealousy wants to raise its ugly head in every life at one time or another. I think that everyone at least once sees something in another person's life that they would like in there own. What the problem is why can't all of us be happy for others instead of jealous? Your friend got what she wanted but as the expression goes beware what you ask for, you may just get it.
2006-09-19 06:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's easy to envy someone's life or lifestyle without having the knowledge of what they have to endure in their lives/behind closed doors.
i've known many ppl who seem to have it together, got the well to do husband, the kids, nice house, fancy car, etc. but they are unhappy as hell because money cannot buy you love or happiness!
i found out after years of friendship with my best friend in school that she envied me all these years because of my outlook on life and my family life at home, while i envied her for being so well loved and popular - guess everyone envies someone at some point in their lives!
to everyone out there - be content with what you've got and don't wish for yourself what other's have... you don't know what they had to do to get where they are!
2006-09-19 06:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by asian chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think everyone has the 'grass is greener' effect. I have also realized people sometimes project this image of a perfect life, because in order to be happy, they have to have one up on friends, neighbors etc... I think true happiness comes from within, being happy with who you are, and who you surround yourself with.
2006-09-19 06:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know exactly what you mean. I Dated someone that i thought had it all together. Had their ducks in a row and i wanted to learn how to be like them. I envied them terribly. When i got to know them and as i got closer to them i found out that they used other people to "obtain" things they owned and that they owed every dime they made, living from paycheck to paycheck. Not so very glamorous.
2006-09-19 06:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by Teri D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah, i have, then realized like you that they really didnt own the nice things they had, they were all payed for on credit, this is when he lost his job and thus his house and cars and stuff, along with his hot wife. I may gloat, but i shouldnt laugh, since it could really happen to anyone these days.
2006-09-19 06:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully your nice perfect life doesn't bottom out after you have a couple of kids, put on some weight and your husband starts banging his secretary.
2006-09-19 06:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your friend doesn't read all this, I'm sure it would make her feel real good.
2006-09-20 12:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex got jealous once when she caught me banging her best friend
2006-09-19 06:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋