whens the best time to try for a baby?

Question

and i am in a stable relationship thanx!and settled!

Answer 1

My advice is to learn about your body and conception before trying to conceive - granted it seems most people are unaware of these things, however you are a grown-up I assume so there is no excuse for you not knowing this yourself. If you don't know the basics about the birds & the bees or the basics about your body you should not be trying to bring a child into this world.

There is no 'best time' to try for a baby, you are only fertile for around 30% of your total menstrual cycle, if you don't have sex during that time you do not get pregnant.

To conceive you need three things; sperm, egg and cervical mucus.
You ovulate once per cycle normally with an egg that lives for up to 48 hours, normally ovulation occurs between days 12 and 16 of your menstrual cycle, day 1 being the first day of true bleeding on your period. During ovulation the body temperature changes, the cervix also softens and opens, producing cervical mucus, these are the most common ways to detect ovulation, however some women have secondary ovulation signs such as ovulation pains. Cervical mucus is produced so that the sperm to reach the egg they need a medium in which to swim through as well as to keep them protected from the acidic environment of the vagina, this is the purpose of cervical mucus and normally occurs five days before ovulation up until ovulation, with cervical mucus sperm can live up to 5 days.

The best way to conceive is to use methods such as Fertility Awareness Method [FAM], this is where a woman charts her daily basal body temperature, cervical mucus and cervical position to determine exactly what her body is doing, not only when you are fertile but also when your period is due and when you are pregnant without the use of home pregnancy tests.
FAM is also used as a highly effective form of birth control and a means to determine reproductive health problems, in the case of conception this helps determine any fertility problems so they can be treated.
FAM also has the advantage of assisting in sex selection; the Shettles Method is where sex is timed to coincide with fertile period so to heighten possibility of conceiving a girl or a boy – the male sperm (carrying Y chromosome) is fast but delicate, where as the female sperm (carrying X chromosome) is slower but resilient, sex timed just before ovulation insures the faster male sperm reaches the egg first, thus producing a male child, where as sex timed during fertile period before ovulation means that male sperm will die where as female sperm survive within the cervical mucus to make it to the egg, resulting in a female child.
The best way to learn FAM is to get the book – Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement and Reproductive Wealth by Toni Weschler – this is a very good guide to using FAM you can get at most book stores and sites from between £10 and £15, there is also a web site that accompanies the book – http://www.tcoyf.com
FAM can be learned alone using books and web sites, or you can contact your local health authorities or doctor to help you find a local trainer in FAM who will be able to teach you how to use the method successfully, there is a lot of information on finding a trainer on the web site Fertility UK - http://www.fertilityuk.org
FAM is also cheap in that past the book you only really need to buy a basal body thermometer, these I have seen for as little as £1. Although FAM can be hard to learn at first it's benefits are life long, and within a few months of using FAM you should either be pregnant or know why you are not pregnant.

Links on Fertility Awareness Method and Similar Methods;
http://www.28-days.com – Fertility Awareness Method
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/fam.htm - Fertility Awareness Method FAQ.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Meadows/2879/welcome.html - Natural Family Planning
http://www.billings-centre.ab.ca – Billings Ovulation Method.
http://www.justisse.ca – Holistic and FAM methods.
http://www.sisterzeus.com – Herbs and FAM methods.

On sex selection (if interested);
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Gender-Selection-The-Shettles-Method.html - Shettles Method.
http://www.in-gender.com – Gender selection.

Other similar options would be to use CycleBeads that are beads that show your fertile and none fertile days, Boots also has an ovulation kit which consists of a little case with charts and a basal body thermometer for £12 that would be similar to FAM, NFP and other ovulation methods but without as much attention to detail – which you do not really need if planning on getting pregnant. You could also go the more hi-tech route by using computers such as Babycomp or Persona that will both tell you when you are ovulating – I do believe you can also get ovulation testing kits, however these are not as accurate at determining when you are fertile.

For more information;
http://www.cyclebeads.com – CycleBeads.
http://www.ladycomp.com – Ladycomp and Babycomp.
http://www.boots.com/shop/product_list_new_template.jsp?classificationid=1037588 – Boots fertility products.

Another idea which would be simpler and cheaper, although not as effective, would be to use basic tracking methods and charting these in a calendar or online, there are a few web sites around, most will work on a method similar to the Rhythm Method where it determines fertile days in accordance to your cycle and previous cycles – i.e. your last period was on day x, your next period will be on day y, so your ovulation will be on day z. This is similar to saying that you ovulate on day 14 of your cycle, although in a regular typical cycle this would be correct (ovulation around day 12-16) if you have irregular cycles or simply your cycle is not set to this pattern this can do little for you and end up with you having sex on the wrong days, not falling pregnant and believing there is a fertility problem where there is none.

Basic charting sites;
http://www.fertilityfriend.com – Fertility Friend.
http://www.mymonthlycycles.com – My Monthly Cycles.
http://www.cyclespage.com – Cycles Page.

Answer 2

Exactly when you ovulate. That's approximately 14 days after your first day of the period. You might notice a white discharge, more and thicker mucus and also slightly higher body temperature.

Answer 3

I will bet two things:
1. Ur not married AND ur b/f is not ready (probably want to do it w/o telling him.
2. U have no money (at least not enough for a baby)

IF U WERE, U WOULD ALREADY KNOW THIS. IF U DONT THIS, DONT HAVE A BABY.THE NEXT QUESTION IS "HOW DO U FEED THE BABY?"

Answer 4

When you are in a stable relationship and able to provide for your child.

Answer 5

I used to ask your self th comparable element yet in simple terms seem at a infant while they sleep, so non violent and cozy finding, it means you slept like a infant does while a infant is asleep no longer while it wakes up... means you have been comfortable and non violent.

Answer 6

im pretty sure you are at your most fertile in the week or so before your period. if you are trying to concieve you should go along for a chat with your doctor they will have the best advice for you.

Answer 7

march, which would be due some where around christmas time, i would say march 25th is the best time to try for a baby

Answer 8

Exactly between periods,usually when you have a thick discharge,sounds a bit much but its true.Worked for us

Answer 9

when you are mature enough and ready to take responsibility of the child good luck.

Answer 10

xmas eve