Do you have to share your prior love life.. first love, etc.?
2006-09-19 06:25:18 · 31 answers · asked by katrina_ponti 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only thing, and all that ever should matter, is who you are with now. All that went before was just part of the road to where you are, and if you're in true love (like I am with you) then, well, it doesn't really matter one tiny bit how you got here, baby. I know you're here now, you love me, I love you and we're going all the way together from here on out.
2006-09-19 13:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bender 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I would say not necessarily. Your current relationship should have nothing to do with prior ones. However i do think if you do share things about prior relationships that it is only to benefit or help your current one. For example, comparing a new mate to an old...that can be hurtful, but possibly telling a new mate that you have had a difficult past with prior relationships and you want to take things slow would be an acceptable thing to share (again these are just examples) :)
2006-09-19 13:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows about SOME of them - you don't HAVE to share prior love life - but when you do share, remember to very judiciously edit details so the current beau doesn't get his feelings hurt or find something to obsess over & give you grief about in future arguments. lol this guy I'm dating had been married to his ex wife for several months when they got around to discussing her "past" - she was a wrestling groupie & had been with over 50 men - & she wasn't even in her thirties at that time!!! Needless to say, he felt like he'd been saddled with a ho & he never saw her the same way again. So tell some, but by no means ALL!! They can't handle the truth!!! lol
2006-09-19 13:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows about some of them and I know about some of his. We don't really sit down and discuss the past relationships though. I think it's up to you how much information you choose to share with the other person. It also depends on the reasons why you want to know. If it will only cause pain why bring stuff like that up.
2006-09-19 13:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
offcouse, u must tell ur mate each and everything about ur past love life, even if u had sex and with how many person, there is nothing wrong in this, as u will be honest in ur relationship nothing nasty and no dead rat, i think ur mate will consider u and ur honesty, thats all I have to say, "A relationship cannot be built on the Swamps of lies"
2006-09-20 08:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by rohit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I don't know much about her's. We got together when we were in our 30 so there was little point to share all that. In 7 years it hasn't come up and we are fine. My wife is totally cool and we check out hot guys and girls together just for fun. We've never gotten hurt or jealous.
2006-09-19 13:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by awf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a mate now but the last one did, only I found out way too much about his past loves and the extreme amount of them alone was enough to make me go ...oh....
2006-09-19 13:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my case, I did'nt want to. Only becuz he was way before my husband, so what does it matter, right? But I guess my hubby's curiosity is too big. He kept begging me to tell him, who and what time frames, I felt real uncomfortable telling him this, becuz my first love still holdds a special place in my heart and just talking about it made me feel sad.
2006-09-19 13:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to share anything you're not comfortable sharing. My mate knows SOME of my past history, not all. It would be unnecessary to share all of it.
2006-09-19 13:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to tell your new lover anything about your past love life. The decision is up to you. My hubby knew about all of my ex's before we got married, but i chose to tell him, he didn't make me.
If it isn't a life or death situation, why bring the past up. There is a reason why it is called the past.
2006-09-19 13:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋